Friday, December 31, 2010

Babetude's sweet musings...

The year gone by taught me a lot. Each day does so and as I grow older I feel it even more...Learning and getting wiser sure can make life so much better.

It was the first year, the most part of which I spent out of the country of my birth-India. Something new for me but the best part was learning more, from new people of the world and broadening my horizons.That's why traveling is considered a great education,an eye opener by many.

It's nice to increase knowledge, become a more substantial person, not someone who gets carried away by frivolous stuff. Learning is a never ending process indeed!

Someone was right when she reminded her online friends on a networking site to be careful of the company we keep as it ultimately has an effect on what we become."When a dove starts associating with crows his feathers may stay white but his heart will darken. Watch who you work or keep company with..."

I'm glad at last after quite a few years of wait, I finally got the company of a few wise and spiritual beings.

Apart from all that, I enjoyed some good stage acting which is the real deal in the world of acting.My all time favorite classic actor Monty Clift was a dedicated and natural Broadway actor. So were many other greats.

I never had any great feeling about stars. Even after working in the Indian entertainment industry for a while, I never fell for the charms of any star.Sadly most of them are non actors. Except for the likes of the very talented and intelligent Aamir Khan.

I want good acting, good performances and that's it. From the time I grew aware, I never was a big fan of commercial movies. I like to treat cinema as an art.

Why should one flow with the tide and like what the majority like? It's always better to create your own space and choices but then they should be wise and good to.Definitely it's not advisable to live in a fool's paradise...

I have appreciated theater quite a bit. But then due to the busy schedule I never got to check out Prithvi theater much in Mumbai. I plan to do it properly in my visit to Mumbai in the new year. Checking out a play here in Trinidad & Tobago was a special experience too.

Some of these actors really do treat acting as an art.It's not about earning money for them.They have zero stage fright and they are really natural. Kudos to them, since unlike film and TV actors they don't have the privilege of retakes.

In life too, one can call oneself actors like how the famous quote says- "All the world's a stage and we are all actors and actresses."

We are all here to play a part so it's better we play it damn well. Of course it's better we play the parts genuinely and be ourselves. Hypocrisy sucks.So it's not about taking the 'acting' word too literally!

On a similar note, I really love ballet(in fact good dance forms as a whole) too and Natalie Portman. She's not just a star but a great actress as well.

This one ain't no ordinary star. She's someone who has balance in her life- a good career since childhood, attractiveness,class, poise and she's also someone who cares about family.And balance in life is very, very important. I shall keep this opinion about her intact always.

Hence 'Black Swan' is the movie for me. I follow her on twitter and got many details when it released in December. The reactions have been very positive.

But it hasn't released as yet where I stay.

Waiting for the same with great anticipation. The reviews have been good too.But I guess it's a more like a movie for the intelligent viewer or the ones who take acting, story and direction seriously.


Stage acting is the real deal.

And as felt by me too along with the critics, cinema lovers,film makers, she's been nominated for the Golden Globe for the movie and is likely to get an Oscar nomination.

Just as I felt and also expressed on my blog once in June that she'll become a mom soon( almost predicted:-), Nat is pregnant.That's another big blessing in the season of joy apart from making the career shine so bright.


And it seems she finally found her right man-Benjamin Millepied.He's a principal ballet dancer and a ballet choreographer of international reputation. And they got close during the making of the movie.

She has got engaged. I'm so happy for her.

Someone knowledgeable with a sense of humor thinks he has a name which is good for children story books. Well, if all goes well, this could end up as being a lovely fairy tale with a beautiful story of it's own!

I saw Nat grow up on screen from 'Leon' when I was a little girl myself to now 'Black Swan'.

But this happy reality also makes us realize something else very important. Time flies very fast indeed. So one needs to make the best of what one has in life.

Take care of health, career, life as a whole and be positive, progressive, constructive and also harmless. I like what a few wise folks say: Do as you like as long as it harms none.

And yes, everything has a time.It's always good to do things in life with the time factor in mind.

2011 should be another phase in my life as well. Motherhood is a must for any woman to feel complete.Okay, more so for the ones who are my type.

And I have always loved little girls and wish to mentor a beautiful little one and make her into a good citizen of the world, something which I didn't get so much in life. I kind of grew up on my own. If I have a son(God's will is going to decide that)I would happily say like how a historical figure once did: "You are not what you were supposed to be, but that doesn't mean I'll love you any less."

Seriously in the not very kind of world, and even more competitive world of today it's a big blessing to have great citizens and role models such as Natalie Portman,Dakota Fanning, Mark Zuckerberg and Google founder Sergey Mikhaylovich Brin at home. Blessed are their parents!

Here again we have to pick up names from the celeb list because the commoner is hardly known by the majority but yes, thankfully there are a few good people who make the world a better place.


Happy New Year everyone.A New day will dawn and a New Year is here. May peace, love, justice reign supreme...

And definitely learn from the lessons of the past and try be better for days of 'Auld Lang Syne'(an evergreen lovely song)...

See you all in 2011 soon with some more wise and entertaining talk.





Thursday, December 23, 2010

Happy Christmas time...

It's a time to spread good cheer. A time of love, peace and joy...

I have always been attracted a lot to Christmas.Maybe because of my childhood and schooling background when our sisters(nuns) got us ready for the holidays with cultural programs, plays, song and dance. And yes, a few gifts with someone playing Santa and food.

And yes,learning some teachings of Christ would stand some of us in good stead though we were not born Christians.He's someone who many people regardless of their religion love to love and follow.

In fact it's more like a festival which anyone regardless of religion can celebrate. After all it's about celebrating the best things about humanity.


It's the spirit of Christmas that is always so very special.

It's also about giving, yeah, giving to the ones who don't have and really appreciate, doing good deeds. Spreading peace, love and joy...

I have always loved the Santa legend. Saint Nicholas aka Santa Claus, appeared/ appeared so lovable, amiable and is said to be taking special care of all those who do the needful. I have always had the habit of writing my wishes to Santa on Christmas Eve, I was so loved the story about kids putting their wishes for Santa in a stocking and later collecting the gifts. Well, in recent years they haven't been material things,more things and wishes to make my life better.

Material things give joy but spiritual growth and the sense of achieving more than just material gifts and things makes one feel complete.

The decorations, the pastries, the chocolates and the spirit of the season as a whole has been very, very appealing. And I'm sure I'm not alone as there are many non Christians who love the aura of the season.

I have always liked to dress in red and white(Santa's colors) with the Santa cap,and play a few popular carols I knew since childhood.

But this will be first official Christmas celebration at home. Before it was kind of low key.

This is one of the best things about moving to the western world.

Not that northeast India where I come from or Mumbai never had a Christmas. They had but this is something different and seems more authentic as the celebration is at home.

So this year, it is special, thanks to that special someone.

It's good to decorate the tree, pack gifts and cook and bake.



And as a tradition I look forward to unpacking my gift from under the tree.





The Almighty has been really kind.


The enjoyment is there, but the most important part of Christmas is remembering Christ and the spirit of spreading good will, doing some charity and helping the weak and the harmless.

I tried and more so this year to do my bit of charity though I still feel it's very, very little. Just two years back when that someone really special bought a special gift( my first huge Christmas present) and in the process involuntarily donated to the Audrey Hepburn Children Fund, I felt so good...

Later the realization felt even more good as the importance of these little deeds sunk in. I knew about them from childhood but couldn't as much as I would have liked to.

Three years ago we did make a donation to a leper's colony in Mumbai around and few little things here and there for floods victims in India. In my childhood through our school we used to try to help flood victims and the poor with books, clothes and food. Thankfully our teachers and sisters(nuns) taught us some philanthropy. But the world is huge and there's much misery and hence it can never seem enough.

I just wish I had done a bit more.It gives a sense of satisfaction, more than anything material and as good as achieving and realizing dreams in life.

Charles Dicken's 'Christmas Carol' preached the same spirit. And my favorite Christmas movie 'Miracle on 31st street' has ideal messages too. It's an amiable film with a very cute actor playing Santa.

This year, apart from trying to make a few people who are good and close to me happy, I feel a sense of joy to send a few e cards from care2causes from which charities such as animal welfare, human rights,environment, wildlife et al benefit. I like to sign petitions which they reportedly deliver to various authorities/ leaders around the globe and also promote the same through social media. And yes, do some writing and spreading messages for the families of Indian martyrs & patriots which I have been doing since November 26th this year, more vigorously and am likely to continue with full force.

It's always nice to make especially a little child smile even with a simple little gift- a toy or a jar of cookies. Kids really are virtuous, they show appreciation for even the smallest of things.

These little things make so much of a difference to the mind,give such a heartwarming feeling and it's kind of joy which superficial things like partying etc can never bring.

It's not much, but the spirit is on and hope to do much better in the days to come...

Maybe some time in the future I shall be able to enjoy a White Christmas, with snowman, wine, cakes etc- the more authentic way. The Almighty is kind.

Merry Christmas to all. May the season bring the best and do what it is supposed to do- spread peace, love and joy...

Friday, December 10, 2010

The Lonely Hearts




Good bye Norma Jeane
Though I never knew you at all
You had the grace to hold yourself
While those around you crawled
They crawled out of the woodwork
And they whispered into your brain
They set you on the treadmill
And they made you change your name

And it seems to me you lived your life
Like a candle in the wind
Never knowing who to cling to
When the rain set in
And I would have liked to have known you
But I was just a kid
Your candle burned out long before
Your legend ever did

Loneliness was tough
The toughest role you ever played
Hollywood created a superstar
And pain was the price you paid
Even when you died
Oh the press still hounded you
All the papers had to say
Was that Marilyn was found in the nude

Goodbye Norma Jeane
From the young man in the 22nd row
Who sees you as something as more than sexual
More than just our Marilyn Monroe




This was Elton John's song dedicated to Norma Jeane better known as Marilyn Monroe. And it very well describes the reality of her life.

Always admired in a crowd and yet so very lonely!

She was the quintessential star who was made to pout & preen for and romance the camera. And she had a lovable childlike quality, she could look sexy but sweet and innocent at the same time. And she didn't need to try hard to look hot, it was a natural quality she had.

That’s something which many blondes( more so Playboy blondes) after her had tried to copy unsuccessfully.

Marilyn had men drooling over and even today she's considered the ultimate sex symbol by many. But this voluptuous blonde was a truly lonely soul who sadly lacked the ability to handle life.

Her circumstances were bad and the world of showbiz even then was tough.

She had a troubled childhood with her father abandoning her mother and her, the mother ending up in a mad house and her relatives with whom she spent her childhood not being kind enough to her.

But she was thoroughly ambitious, someone who would do anything for fame. First, she played the right cards for her modelling career and then for the stardom that the movies brought her.

The movie Marilyn and Norma Jeane has chronicled the various issues in her life quite well.

She had money, she had fame and adulation but it was not enough to save her relationships with her three husbands.

The first one was just James Dougherty was an arranged match and more like a marriage of convenience while she was still a teenager and she left him to pursue her modelling as Norma Jeane anyway.





To become Marilyn, the ambitious Norma Jeane had reportedly undergone plastic surgery to correct her nose and dyed her hair blonde. Well, those promoting her career demanded that.


In her more serious marriages with Joe Di Maggio and playwright Arthur Miller she had severe discord too.


The problems were deep rooted. She was reportedly schizophrenic and a drug abuser. She was aware of the same and she sought psychiatric help and psychoanalysis for most of her life.

She had some medical issues which caused miscarriage and inability to have a child.

She was scared of getting old as it meant stardom waning away (that’s a problem which would probably forever plague most in the entertainment industry).

It’s said during the time she sang “Happy Birthday Mr. President”, she dreamed of marrying President Kennedy


Her lonely end in the August of 1962 as a 36 year old is still a mystery and there are many conspiracy theories associated to it.

So here was this lady who seemed to have it all, yet was sad and lonely.

And he wasn’t really a dumb blonde. In fact some of her quotes such as these, show that she knew herself, and her intelligent side-

I am selfish, impatient, and a little insecure. I make mistakes, I am out of control and at times hard to handle. But if you can't handle me at my worst, then you sure as hell don't deserve me at my best.”

“I believe that everything happens for a reason. People change so that you can learn to let go, things go wrong so that you appreciate them when they're right, you believe lies so you eventually learn to trust no one but yourself, and sometimes good things fall apart so better things can fall together."

“I've never fooled anyone. I've let people fool themselves. They didn't bother to find out who and what I was. Instead they would invent a character for me. I wouldn't argue with them. They were obviously loving somebody I wasn't.”

‘Dogs don’t bite me, only humans do”

“A sex symbol becomes a thing, and I can't stand to be a thing.”



In fact, she had sought the friendship of the favorite classic actor of many, Montgomery Clift more so during the making of her last movie ‘The Misfits’.

She famously described Clift as, "The only person I know who is in worse shape than I am."

Clift had a few chronic health problems, and was bisexual and later in his life probably exclusively homosexual. That was something which was looked down upon in Hollywood during those days.

After a life altering accident in 1956, he resorted to constant drug use to ease pains.

His destructive lifestyle affected his health and his end ten years later was lonely and sad too. In fact the last ten years have been famously called, ‘the longest suicide in Hollywood.” Sad, it pains me greatly since I can easily say- he's an all time favorite actor of mine and many others...

It doesn’t take a rocket scientist to figure out that living a life of glitz and glamor of the showbiz world has many pitfalls.

Over the years there have been many examples.


Young and promising actor James Dean fatally crashed his car when he was only 24. Almost 16 years later the girl he wanted to marry and couldn't- the pretty Italian actress Piere Angeli too decided to put an untimely end to her life, owing to financial and personal issues.It's said she could never forget Dean and her note said that he was the only person in the world she ever truly loved in her life.

Before that Judy Garland, whose still immortal as Dorothy of ' The Wizard of Oz' went through severe personal crisis and many of her problems were connected to her weight.

The lives of celebs such as Andy Warhol’s muse Edie Sedgwick, musicians Jim Morrison, Janis Joplin, Jimi Hendrix and more recently Heath Ledger and Brittany Murphy have exhibited the pitfalls of life in the public eye.


So the song “Good bye Norma Jeane” as stated by Bernie Taupin, can be about any public figure that is tormented by the pressures and the standards that the press and fans make him or her live up to.

Elton John sang the same song with a few alterations for Princess Diana.

The truth it’s not just a thing for celebs.

There are several lonely hearts in many a big bad city.

We get to hear more about the known people simply because they live their lives in the public eye.


Struggling alone day in and day out in a lonely city with very few true friends for anyone is difficult. Especially so if the person is young and building a career. One reaches a big city to fulfill dreams but the road ahead isn’t easy at all.

It’s like being lonely in a big crowd and seeking a place far away from the “bustle and the bright city lights.”

Especially so if there is not much family support and a parent or guardian is not physically living with the person. One needs to be lucky to get a true friend or a true lover.


In the Indian entertainment industry, the ethereally beautiful Madhu Bala who's been often revered as an icon in the east like Marilyn Mornroe in the west and the talented Meena Kumari have been seen as tragic lonely figures.Parveen Babi was another one who had a horrendous time dealing with the mayhem in her personal life stemming out of her various psychological problems.



The media and some others have sympathized with actress Divya Bharati's mysterious end and models Rakhi, Miss India 1997 Nafisa, her friend and co-star Kuljeet, Viveka and the like's self destruction in recent years. The same goes for some South Indian actresses who have been seen as victims as well.

It's said they simply couldn’t take the pressures of life in the shallow entertainment world.

Some mean ones criticized them for going out the cowardly way.
But loneliness is a hell of a thing to handle. Feeling lonely in a crowd and not knowing the difference between friends and foe can be a common situation in a cold city. At most times there's no family or true emotional support to lean on.

Only the one who was facing it and maybe their respective family would know what was actually going on.So it's better not to comment on sensitive situations of that sort.

Self preservation is something one should ideally seek(of course without harming none) and not self destruction.

It's difficult but one needs to keep one's cool amidst any kind of crisis. It’s easier said than done though.

Right psychological and true spiritual guidance at the right time and being lucky enough to get the same can transform many equations and change life for the better.

Some people can be really so very strong. Maybe they get divine guidance when unthinkable crisis hits them.

Here’s one recent example from the very few I have seen around lately and that has touched me immensely. And actually it's about normal people, not any celeb. And yes, it's something about the Mumbai Terror attacks of 2008, which not anyone conscious who has lived in Mumbai(even though I did so in the past) can forget or afford to ignore. It could have been a huge crisis in any normal person's home...

Their only son Major Sandeep Unnikrishnan (who can very well be considered an Indian youth icon) became a martyr in the Mumbai terror attacks of 2008 and when he was brought home, his parents K Unnkrishnan and Dhanlaxmi Unnkirishnan said they were so traumatized by the event( understandably so distraught) and later the unneeded political hoopla that they felt like ending their lives themselves there and then. But they logically figured it out and said, “people would say that their son was so brave (who has been equated with the likes of patriots Bhagat Sigh, Sukhdev, Rajguru and Chandrashekhar Azad) while they are such cowards”. So they got the courage to live and have been supporting each other since. They have been doing everything from attending functions, to giving interviews, to meeting other martyrs’ families, and everything else that preserves the memories of their son and others like him.

Many an emotional human would be touched by their courage and tears would well up in their eyes but the brave parents keep maintaining their calm.

Kudos to that kind of spirit. No words are enough.Maybe that very spirit will help them to get real justice one fine day...

Wednesday, December 8, 2010

And History repeats itself...

Lines Written In Early Spring
William Wordsworth


I heard a thousand blended notes,
While in a grove I sate reclined,
In that sweet mood when pleasant thoughts
Bring sad thoughts to the mind.
To her fair works did Nature link
The human soul that through me ran;
And much it grieved my heart to think
What man has made of man.


Through primrose tufts, in that green bower,
The periwinkle trailed its wreaths;
And ’tis my faith that every flower
Enjoys the air it breathes.

The birds around me hopped and played,
Their thoughts I cannot measure:—
But the least motion which they made
It seemed a thrill of pleasure.

The budding twigs spread out their fan,
To catch the breezy air;
And I must think, do all I can,
That there was pleasure there.

If this belief from heaven be sent,
If such be Nature’s holy plan,
Have I not reason to lament
What man has made of man?



I remember reading this poem in school as an adolescent in the mid -late nineties.It's been since then but I still recall it so very well. So that simply means it did touch me quite a bit.

Later we had sat down to decipher it and then answering questions about this famous Wordsworth masterpiece.


It holds a lot of meaning indeed. A noteworthy English Romantic poet like Wordsworth who was considered the nature poet or nature writer has put in a lot of thought into this particular work of his.

Without getting into too many details, here's a little summary for you guys...

Wordsworth is happy to observe the harmony in Nature. He sees, hears, and smells the flowers, the birds, and the trees, and it all delights him because each part of the scene he looks at is doing what it is designed to do. Unfortunately, Wordsworth’s happiness is marred by his own kind.

The stark contrast between Nature’s harmony and man’s world depresses him. He thinks people are unhappy because they do not act in the ways they were meant to act. In his mind, people have deviated from ‘Nature’s holy plan’ and have renounced a life of simplicity, spontaneity, and beauty for grief and strife. He has a feeling that society corrupts humans and causes them to forget the importance of Nature in life.

Wordsworth ends his poem by proclaiming- ‘Have I not reason to lament/What man has made of man?’

It makes clear the fact that man's unhappiness amidst the delicate chain of being in nature is caused by his pride which makes him think he's greater than what he is, and also his habit of complaining about God's sovereignty.

The few wise men of the world agreed and would agree with this kind of a feeling.


After remembering 26/11 in my last post and going through the memorial day on TV and web, it's been like an emotional upheaval of sorts for me. The heart for sure feels heavy.

But life is all about dealing with human nature and the harsh realities of the world, right?

And the best way to do it is looking at History…


And History repeats itself over and over and over again. Period.

It just that sometimes we don't have the knowledge to realize the same.

History was my major subject during my graduation. And I had taken it up because of my love for it, more than anything else. No matter what others said including those who felt it would never help any career, I really loved the subject.

Now that I’m older and wiser and not a young teenager as I was when I made my notes at home(without much help from the college or university which the college was affiliated to) to write the eight papers of my History major exams. So though I enjoyed reading the same, I never delved too deep. Or maybe I was just too immature for the same…

I scored good marks in all the papers but that’s about it.

I coax myself for the same everyday. People like us who grow up on their own but have a humane side need to know all these things, have the knowledge to handle things better in life.

In fact I've started talking about History after pretty long. Working in the frivolous word of Bollywood(even the name is a shameless copy),made my life quite unsubstantial as well.

Not that I wanted to be so. But there was no choice. That’s where my bread and butter was for a couple of years. So interviewing, editing stories of cheap star squabbles, what they do, speak, where they sleep, shop and so on, became my work.

As if there was nothing better to do in life, other than following the lives of a few people with not much wisdom or intellect.

Watching movies every day, first for Sony TV shows and then for reviews every Friday at the theater was a duty too. Some of them were unbearable to sit through but I suffered them just because it was my work. It was never out of love, mind you though!

I’m not saying every movie was bad. I have some good memories. There were substantial stuff said and done by the likes of Aamir Khan,A.R Rahman, Prasoon Joshi etc. Aamir's movies were quite good and there were some other substantial personalities in the industry.

So apart from Aamir Khan's patriotic 'Rang De Basanti', children centric 'Taare Zameen Par, I liked 'Gandhi, my father' and the not too old 'Jodhaa Akbar', a historical as well and a few other new age type of movies made in recent years. And of course I'm a classic movie fan.

But other than that, it was total stagnation. Also sadly the dumb outweigh the bright in that world.


But quitting that environment has come as a blessing.

I've always loved film history a lot too and like to keep in touch with world cinema. Never had a chance to do much of that. But now it's nice to blog about it and yes, I would love to add a bit of all that I perceived from various things in the book I write.

So talking of something substantial as History, one can see a lot and learn a lot…


While watching the special features on the 'Judgment at Nuremberg'(which dealt with the trials of the Nazi war criminals, how they were tried for crimes against humanity and so on) DVD, I viewed the interview of director Stanley Kramer's wife. And she had said something on the lines of how one needs to know one's past so that you can handle your present and future better.

There's indeed a lot to learn from many events. I won't be able to say much about how people behaved in the ancient world as there are not too many recordings in history about the cave man, how people actually were before they got civilized.

Yes, we do know about Alexander, Julius Caesar, many personalities from Indian history like Ashoka and so on,before the birth of Christ and a lot of corruption, politics, intrigue, conspiracies were recorded from these eras as well. Shakespeare later used some examples in his plays, especially his tragedies. Guess the genius always had some messages for the readers and viewers.

People are more comfortable with medieval and modern history as they are closer to our times.

The Tudor era(Shakespeare belonged to that era too),the French revolution, The American war of Independence, The Russian Revolution, World war I and II, the Vietnam war, the killing fields of Cambodia, the days of slavery, the Indian independence struggle and many interesting eras of Indian history- the list can go on. There won't be space for everything out here but these examples would kind of help us know even better that strife in human life is nothing new.

Luckily very recently I was introduced to the work of Robert Greene and he tells the same with great conviction and style through his books.His writing and research are remarkable.

This February I had the opportunity to visit the Tower of London. Well, it's historical and looks quite nice, and we happily clicked away pics and showed them off later.

Quite later the reality hit me hard. Gosh, this tower had such a bloody history with blood bath being the favorite hobby inside there.




While visiting the London Dungeon, we got a glimpse of what was actually going on there. Delving into the history of London one gets a first hand experience of the gore, the inhuman tortures that were taking place just 500- 600 years ago. Hanging people upside them, boiling them, butchering them alive and most importantly the perpetrators had seemed to enjoy it all…

I couldn't bring myself to play the executioner and pretend to chop heads with an axe even though it was just for a picture. It's just too sadistic a pic to keep...

Gosh, it’s pathetic. The cold behavior could beat the extremely cold London winter hands down.

There were horror stories told of poverty, dirt, squalor, plague, fire and murder et al.


I've been a fan of the Tudor period in English history(1485 and 1603).

Well,in history everyone would enjoy reading about the Tudors as that’s considered the most colorful era in English and even Europe History. So much so that it gets depicted on screen over and over again-the reigns of Henry V111 and his six queens, "Bloody Mary" Tudor(during whose reign thousands were burnt at the stake) and the golden age of Elizabeth.




The history books wouldn't delve on the gore as much as the TV shows or the stuff on the net do.

When I was a student myself,'Elizabeth' directed by Indian filmmaker Shekhar Kapoor would show on TV most of the time and it really made things interesting for me. Definitely more interesting than the text books.

Though I never saw the show 'The Tudors' on TV, I followed up much of it online and on youtube. It was nicely made but glamorized things quite a bit( that’s understandable since it's meant to attract viewers) and yes, stayed true to the gore of executions and torture..



On another note, I am a fan of the wonderful Natalie Portman's work but her Anne Boleyn act in 'The Other Boleyn Girl' has been blasted by most people who know the real history. It was full of made up things and was filled with accusations against Anne and George Boleyn which never really happened.In fact majority said that the siblings were just framed.

Wonder why she decided to be a part of such a faulty film which makes a joke out of history. There are other examples of faulty films but this will always be counted as a noteworthy name in the black list.





People like me already know that you are a good actress Natalie(pictured on top as Anne Boleyn with Jim Sturgess as her brother George Boleyn)...

The little live wire in 'Leon', the bald act in 'V for Vendetta', and now the acclaimed 'Black Swan'. Girl you needn't need to do more!

I imagine this girl playing Mother Mary with her serene face and cool temperament, not a half baked character like that.


In history Queen Anne Boleyn who is the mother of one of the most successful and loved English queens Elizabeth, is seen as a victim more than a schemer( though the argument is always on) and so are Mary, Queen of Scots, Marie Antoinette( during the French revolution) Queen Alexandra of Russia( in whose reign the Russian Revolution) happened). Queen Alexandra's daughters and young son for sure look like young victims of the communist regime.

Some one had said: "History is one of those things that we can argue about and have opinions about, but most of the time we don’t actually know the real answer, what REALLY happened."

But at least there's enough material out there to read, find out and discuss.

Guess they were gray characters with their shares of issues, but not completely black.

Catherine Howard, another Tudor Queen was the guilty one and has been called 'the stupidest girl in the world' for playing with fire and having an extra martial affair right under the nose of her very power crazed and ruthless older husband Henry VIII.

Jane Boleyn nee Parker made it all possible for the young, silly and immature queen who wanted to have the best of both worlds- be a powerful queen but also enjoy a colorful life as well where her needs are taken care of by young men something which her old husband couldn't do. This despite both of them knowing that their relative Anne Boleyn(cousin of Howard and sister- in-law of Lady Rochford) had been falsely implicated and executed for adultery and incest only six years before.

Their own heads rolled soon. Nobody considered the fact that Catherine was actually younger than her husband's eldest daughter Mary Tudor as well as his bastard son.She was reportedly only around 21/22 at that time and that very fact could have granted her forgiveness. But she had hurt the king's huge ego and she, her extra marital lover Thomas Culpepper as well as one of her lovers before marriage Francis Dereham met with gory ends. Another one, her music teacher Henry Mannox had testified against her and hence he was spared.

The politics in the English court during that time was ruthless indeed!

Jane Boleyn, the Lady Rochford who was much older than the immature queen paid her price within just six years. In 1536 she had falsely accused and set up her husband George Boleyn and sister -in-law Anne Boleyn.In February 1542, she herself lost her head and she was childless at that time as well, unlike Anne who had little Elizabeth. She would later became one of the greatest English monarchs.

Thomas Cromwell who had plotted to end Anne Boleyn's power in 1536 too met his end in a similar fashion in the Tower of London in 1540. In fact he had also reportedly framed four innocent men making them look like Queen Anne's lovers and brought about their end.

Poetic justice indeed! "What goes around comes around", "As you sow, so shall you reap"- the sayings do hold some truth at times.

By the way, it's been argued and said that it was actually the patriarch of the family, Thomas Boleyn who put his children Anne and George in great danger by placing them(Anne, George as well as the eldest daughter Mary Boleyn) in court because of his love for power and later not doing enough to save them when the conspiracy was hatched to bring them down.

Ghost stories say that his spirit would be hounded for 1000 years for abandoning his family in the cowardly and dastardly manner!!!

Well, considering so many unjustified killings during those times,there are probably ghost stories that haunt every castle and palace of England.Spooky tours are quite famous out there indeed!


Lady Jane Grey from the Tudor period again was an innocent victim who became a pawn in her families' power games.

Love for power has indeed been a great pastime for years.And power and riches for some have always come before family.


For those who like history, the following link is recommended for more...

http://garethrussellcidevant.blogspot.com/

For more on the colorful Tudors, the following sites can be checked...

http://www.theanneboleynfiles.com/
http://www.elizabethfiles.com/

Anne Frank was one of the young victims of the extremely cruel Jewish massacre by Hitler and the Nazis comes from a famous, much talked about era too- World war II (1939 to 1945).

My favorite classic actress Audrey Hepburn had widely talked about the sufferings of that period during her childhood and how it made her feel one with Frank who was almost the same age as her.


The Oscar winning 'Schindler's List' had depicted the pathetic state of the Jews quite well.

The girl who lost her life before the age of 16 had written in her famous diary,“I still believe in spite of everything that people are really good at heart.”

But is it actually true? If you look at the majority population of the world, that’s not it. Doesn't seem so at all.

Hitler killed himself and The Nazis and the Fascists were tried and punished for crimes against humanity. Quite justified indeed!

Forgiveness is divine but only applies to a select few. Some things are unforgivable. Humanity and sympathy are for humans, not for monsters.Period.

Looking at the Killing Fields in Cambodia, The Nazi era, massacres in China, Atom bombs in Hiroshima and Nagasaki and so on, it doesn't seem that all people are really 'good at heart'. It can just be called a perception of a poor little girl, an innocent victim.


It's all about domination of the weak by the strong. No wonder people have always run after power and riches.


Closer to my country of birth, India, it's known how ruthlessly Aurangzeb had removed his brothers and imprisoned his father Shah Jahan( who built the monument of love, The Taj Mahal for his wife and Aurangzeb's mother Mumtaz Mahal).Then he persecuted all non Muslims under his rule. Soon after his demise, the Mughal empire faded away.

His great grandfather Akbar was the complete opposite. He had a Hindu wife and several ministers and advisers from other religions and sects. And the Mughal empire was flourishing under his rule. Liberalism helped him to usher the golden age in Mughal history.

So a few people who propagate humanity, tolerance and love can positively change the world for themselves and others.Even though there are a handful like that, but they are easily outnumbered.

If you go to look at it, you see so much of the negativity in real life, all around us. It's just that it takes a while to fathom things and for some, they don't understand it at all.

A child is pure and innocent. The corruption sets in as the person gets older as some of them let the vices take over.

When I was the gawky little girl and even as late as last year I wondered why people are needlessly mean to each other! Why do they like to pass comments knowingly to make the other person feel small, even when the person concerned is not doing/ saying anything offensive? Worse still, why do things to harm the harmless, someone who's engaged in his/her space?

So silly of me to take so long to realize something so simple.

Then when the great realization( it was always there, I just didn't get it) hit me one fine day, i felt sad but grateful too.

Well, it all stems out of envy, resentment, arrogance and the various other vices most people like to cultivate. And once they are nurtured well thanks to an easy environment for them to grow, with company, circumstances et al, they just takes over the person's personality.

The person who attacks usually lacks or thinks he/she lacks in something which the target has. So the mean words and deeds provide some kind of sadistic pleasure to him/her.

Just like Wordsworth, some other wise people have also expressed discontent about the balance in nature and the animal kingdom and the lack of the same among human beings.

I must mention here again that domination of the weak is another natural human tendency. Once someone is at a weak spot, some just jump in to make the person even more miserable. It's only a few really kind ones who sympathize with people who are down and out.
It has all gone on for ages...

Now strong animals can dominate and kill weaker ones.But then animals never kill for pleasure, only for food.


People can achieve a lot by being positive, progressive and constructive,and do that without harming anyone. But still most choose negativity, regression and destruction. Maybe it's just inherent in their personalities.

Except for the truly spiritually aware few who preach positivity, no one can change the base tendencies.

Guess the ones that exude positivity and love are the people who make the world livable and a better place. I so wish their number would increase though.

Some religious sects say 2012 or at least 2036/37 will change it all. And the new world order of peace and love and goodness will be established. There will be heaven on earth as the evil wanes away…

They believe the pure children of the one true God who propagate goodness will survive.

I recently also heard an argument how the pure, the honest,the harmless ones and the protectors have been waiting for the same for ages ...

As of now, all that seems like a distant dream. We can only wait and watch.

Till then, here's a link to an article that deals with a similar topic-

http://www.care2.com/greenliving/why-do-we-treat-each-other-with-such-disrespect.html

Friday, November 26, 2010

The Dark Days of November 2008...

I still remember that terrible Wednesday evening of 2008. Even though I’m thousands of miles away from Mumbai city now…

It’s vivid and it seems like just yesterday!

A split second, a minute and a few hours can change people's lives forever...

It was evening and not surprisingly I was busy on the computer writing and doing some intellectual chat online. Well, during those days, that was the one place where I got to do some intelligent and wise discussions!

After a light dinner we had just decided to go down and get some fresh air( one of the few benefits of living near the sea in that polluted city). Just then a message alert from a PR colleague said: "Terrorist attack in Mumbai. Gun fire and shoot out in several places. Ensure your own safety and don’t go out."

Of course as soon as I heard I decided to put on the TV and saw it all live- the chaos, one( probably a terrorist) lying lifeless on the street, a wing, almost a whole side of the grand Taj Mahal hotel burning, the police at work ,the chaos, an NRI giving an interview as to how the ones with British and American passports were held up at the Taj Mahal Hotel and so on.


A small time movie ‘A Wednesday’ had just released and I had edited the review for the website I was working for in September of that year. The movie told the story of a planned terrorist attack and this happened in real life just two months later…


Fact is stranger than fiction indeed!

Of course calls of a few well wishers came throughout the night. I thanked God I was doing okay and so were some people I cared about.

The next day it was all about reading the sad carnage in the papers and watching the live action. The terror would go on for 60 long hours making it one of the worst attacks of recent times.

Eight of the attacks occurred in South Mumbai: at Chhatrapati Shivaji Terminus, the Oberoi Trident, the Taj Mahal Palace & Tower, Leopold Cafe, Cama Hospital, the Orthodox Jewish-owned Nariman House, the Metro Cinema, and a lane behind the Times of India building and St. Xavier’s College. There was also an explosion at Mazagaon, in Mumbai’s port area, and in a taxi at Vile Parle.

I remember visiting the Taj and enjoying the breeze near the Gateway of India with a few others only a month earlier- October 2008. Nariman House was visited the same month as well. Life really springs surprises at you!

I couldn't take too much of that kind of negativity. I was trying to stay away from most of the live coverages.Now I think I should have. Simply because it would have invoked more pathos in me and helped me to handle the situations after the incident better. One can't afford to shy away from the harsh realities of life.



Sad stories of some brave Mumbai policemen who fell while overpowering the terrorists, many innocent citizens and foreigners(who were largely targeted)losing their lives were all over.

A policeman was unarmed and took bullets to his chest, just to capture the lone surviving terrorist.It was an unthinkable self sacrifice to hold on, just to capture the man who was going berserk killing people.His capture could only prove the links to the attacks without which nothing would have been proved.

He is a huge hero- Shaheed Tukaram Omble.

http://blogs.hindustantimes.com/singly-political/2010/11/26/a-martyr-and-a-terrorist/

The lion of a man is one of the most talked about martyrs of the event today. He's being honored now. His wife and daughters will still feel the loss forever.One of the daughters said as an Indian she would be proud of what he did,but as a daughter she wished her father hadn't been so brave and saved himself.



People were still awaiting news from their loved ones who dined at the Trident hotel.

Later actor Ashish Choudhury wrote an open letter filled with anguish and anger when after a few days of waiting he found out his sister and brother-in-law didn’t make it.

I still feel pangs of grief for the young brave-heart, NSG commando,Major Unnikrishnan who gave away his life a day or so later in the course of the operation to protect the city and to save the hostages in the Taj Mahal hotel.

Net users later got mails with his happy casual pics from a personal holiday just a few months back from a social networking site.

He was a happy-go-lucky young man next door, our friendly neighborhood guy who was extra ordinary and whose selflessness and sacrifice seems so out of the world in this materialistic world. A truly great man, so out of the world.

No amount of compensation and tears are enough for a sacrifice like that. He didn't need to do that, he could have chosen to live life like anyone his age. Instead he decided to protect people he didn't even know. A kind of attitude which is hardly found anywhere around.

He still lives on in the memories of the ones who really care...

http://www.binscorner.com/pages/m/meet-the-hero-major-sandeep-unnikrishnan.html

He was the only son of his parents and they are ones in whose hearts the wounds would be fresh the most. His father carries forward his legacy and both parents look quite strong. But it's really hard to fathom the storm going on inside him...

http://www.defence.pk/forums/india-defence/81771-nsg-martyr-major-sandeep-unnikrishnan-s-father-cycles-across-country.html

http://current.com/news/92821001_we-see-god-in-our-son-mother-of-26-11-martyr.htm?xid=RSSfeed



Napoleon Bonaparte, the Emperor of France had once so rightly said,"It is the cause, not the death that makes the martyr."

"When You Go Home, Tell Them Of Us And Say,
For Their Tomorrow, We Gave Our Today"

The words are attributed to John Maxwell Edmonds (1875 -1958) and they are beautiful, profound and mean so much. Yeah, they do...

Well, they are the real heroes because they take harm upon themselves and are the protectors of the most important thing in life- life itself.

How many people would have the courage to do something like that?

Wonder why the majority still love to idolize celluloid heroes and celebs from other walks of life more than these real heroes from real life!

I'm talking about idols from the glam world, sports world, world of politics, and big shot industrialists etc here.I mean some of them do deserve to be idolized but then many are just media made stars.

The non conscious Indian citizen just keep themselves busy with these celebs as it works as a kind of intoxication for them and helps them to escape the realities of life.

When will this basic thing of life change? The aware citizens really need to make some changes and show this reality to the upcoming generations.

As of now the beautiful memories of the martyrs just live on...No words seem enough.



It's nice to see someone take a good initiative and a chance to check out the young brave heart in a digital avatar. A graphical comic book has been released and the true appreciators can look forward to the same.

A soldier can sacrifice his personal safety, his life for strangers and this is a good ode to that kind of bravery.

http://www.mid-day.com/news/2010/nov/251110-martyr-comic-book-Maj-Sandeep-Unnikrishnan-news-Delhi.htm

Major Unnikrishnan, ASI Tukaram Omble, Havildar Gajender Singh were honored with the Ashok Chakra along with a few other brave men and the other martyrs were/ are being rightly honored too.But it's so difficult to get over or forget such valuable losses.

Nothing that has already happened can change but let's try that their sacrifices never go waste. And something good comes out from this constant fight against terrorism in India and around the world.Let not the memories of the most heinous act of cruelty on innocent lives die. And let not these unsung heroes be ever forgotten.

They are not to be made just subjects of modern history books but their supreme sacrifices need to bear fruit.

A few conscious citizens have made it a point to use the media as a tool and educate the people. To never forget martyrs, such as the Mumbai Martyrs and the Kargil martyrs of 1999. May many more people take such initiatives in life.

http://wn.com/Sachin_Tendulkar_emotional_over_death_of_Martyr_Gajendra_Singh




A veteran food critic and writer was attending a wedding and couldn’t make it out of the Taj Mahal hotel safely. An elderly cleaner at the CST railway station became a victim.A railway employee was shot at the station on Nov 26 and his son who was turning a year older that day says he'll never cut a cake for his birthday again.A cab driver's wife now says she'll not rest until the surviving terrorist's death sentence is carried out.

And yes, there were three fishermen of the hijacked Kuber ship which the the monsters used to enter Mumbai. Recently I heard many say that the ship seem haunted.

The rabbi from Israel and his wife were greatly mourned and the nanny who saved their baby son Moshe showed exemplary courage and presence of mind as well.

The poor little boy doesn't yet fathom the seriousness of what happened, where his parents suddenly disappeared...He just kept crying for mommy.

http://www.ndtv.com/article/cities/26-11-best-revenge-will-be-moshe-returning-to-city-as-rabbi-68763




An elderly German couple's dream just ended in the so called city of dreams at the Leopold cafe frequented by intellectual conversation loving people...
http://news.rediff.com/slide-show/2009/nov/25/slide-show-1-anniversary-26-11-dilip-dsouza-on-a-dream-that-ended-sadly.htm

Innocent lives got lost just like that due to the demonic natures of a few.

There were other such heart wrecking stories which kind of brought some people together. Many expressed disgust and sadness also at the administration's failure to protect citizens.

But only for a while…
Just a few days later, without much remorse they seemed to carry on with their lives. Okay, some say it’s the spirit of the city-to carry on bravely after a disaster.

That’s fine but what’s with the vices and nastiness of the majority?

The chief minister of Mumbai resigned but most people in politics and in power remained the same. Later it came out in the news that the bullet proof jackets worn by the ATS( Anti terrorist squad) chief were faulty. Can anything justify that? The administration totally failed the citizens with this event which will always be fresh in memory.

The chief minister of Kerala decided to act and talk cheap when Major Unnikrishnan's emotional father had protested against the politicians'(from Kerala, their home state) irresponsibility and false show of concern.

Corruption in the country is still rampant.

Since it's a huge, huge topic with millions of people involved, we can talk a little bit about on the micro -level.

I personally saw that kind of apathy in a few so called friends who I was forced to be close at that time. They just forgot 26/11 clean and happily showed off their dark side, that too within just 2-6 months!

So did the brave NSG( National Security Guards) men and the Mumbai policemen give away their lives to protect most of these thankless people? While the harmless ones who just do their duty and the protectors suffer and get annihilated, the one who harm innocents for their selfish reasons and for survival go on happily. Sometimes I too wonder what kind of justice the world has?

Maybe the harmful ones get annihilated too, but till then a lot of damage get done.

Some people did have genuine concern but not the majority...

They had seemed to show concern for the people who lost so much in the attacks but later I realized it was just a show. There was no genuine concern or trials to imbibe the noble qualities of the special few.

They were only concerned about themselves( that's okay till a point as it's self preservation but why does that attitude harm others in the process). But they were ready to stoop to any level and harm if there’s a need for them to fulfill their needs.

The terrorists act out of hate and many like that around us do so the same though in a smaller way! They can't control their various vices of envy, greed, ingratitude,arrogance, lust, selfishness, manipulation , ignorance and so on.
And if given a chance they would make the demons in them rise high and take over to make poor innocents suffer! After all, the terror and the violence like the values, start in the mind itself. Once all that is cultivated, it can really become dangerous.


The young major had put hypocrisy, sycophancy, apathy and lack of compassion as turn offs on one of his social network profiles. And majority he sacrificed himself for are still ruled by these terrible vices.It's really so very sad.

Here was a young man(and a few others as well) who gave up his precious life to shield strangers. And the so called normal people around can't even be a little humane and kind to people they know and are supposed to be close to! Just look at the contrast...

By the way, one might wonder why I speak of Major Unni more than anyone else in this post. I do sympathize and feel for the others a lot too, but this young man was so much like the middle class Indian youth that others of his like know of- convent educated, cosmopolitan, from a simple but cultured family, one with ambitions, one who loves to travel, enjoy the movies, life and so on. He seems so much like the guy next door.The difference was that he was far too giving, selfless, patriotic...

The song picturized on Johnny Walker in the 50s has defined the spirit years ago-

Aye dil hai mushkil jeena yahan
Zara hat ke zara bach ke
Ye hai bombay meri jaan

Kahin building kahin traame
kahin motor kahin mill
Milta hai yahan sab kuchh ik milta nahin dil
Kahin building kahin traame
Kahin motor kahin mill
Milta hai yahan sab kuchh ik milta nahin dil
Insaan ka nahin kahin naam o nishaan
Zara hat ke zara bach ke
ye hai bombay meri jaan



The gist of song is that it's easy to find material things in Bombay but not a genuine good heart. It's a difficult city to survive in as you don't find too much humanity in here...

This song was written so many years ago. Yet it superbly describes the city. Wonder how the lyricist knew that attitude would remain the same even after so many years?

It's not too different in other parts of the world as well but Mumbai could easily be one of the front runners. It could also be because of the fact that the city has too many people.It's like in a city of 19.5- 20 million people,roughly 200 suffering isn't such a big deal.


Probably the average person in Mumbai is so caught up with living life that he/ she don't even think about the victims now.


Except for a select few and I really appreciate their efforts. It's good to tell them so and remind their about their special ways. They do stand out in the uncaring crowd.

There are prayer meetings and candle light vigils(even today occasionally) and encouraging words by President Obama some time ago and US secretary of state Hilary Clinton last year in their respective visits to the city. But not much has changed in the average person. Ratan Tata takes the credit for rebuilding the hotel and doing a great bit though.


Anyway, all of it kind of propelled my decision to move out of Mumbai six months after the attack. I so wish I could have moved out 2-3 months earlier only and didn't need to wait out that time period too.

So much of warmth was gone and the hope that human beings had some goodness in them got lost there...

Everywhere around the world there are problems but in a city like that it's worse. I shall explain some reasons which according to me make people so in some of my later posts.

It’s been almost one and a half years since I left the city and then I only went back for a short visit. Thank God for that. The memories remain, but only of the real heroes.When I visit Mumbai again, the Taj Mahal hotel is the place I want to visit to sign the memorial register.

My heart goes out with the ones who made us all(the thankful as well as the thankless ones) feel safe and sleep peacefully by risking their lives. Who did what the soldiers of a country do every day- protect the borders to ensure the safety of the civilians, so that the normal people can sleep peacefully at night.

The citizens just need to do their duties and show solidarity. Let's hope a few more people become sensitive to their environments despite being so caught up in their lives or worse still stuck in their dangerously selfish & ungrateful little worlds.

Babetude salutes the real heroes. Now and forever.RIP-the true heroes.

Maybe they will get justice someday soon as even the scriptures hint at the same...


Ezekiel 25:17
"The path of the righteous man is beset on all sides by the
inequities of the selfish and the tyranny of evil men. Blessed is he who, in
the name of charity and good will, shepherds the weak through the valley of
darkness, for he is truly his brother's keeper and the finder of lost
children. And I will strike down upon thee with great vengeance and furious
anger those who attempt to poison and destroy my brothers. And you will know
my name is the Lord when I lay my vengeance upon thee."



I still wish to keep hoping that the unneeded loss of innocent life will come to an end sooner than later in the world. Even when I visited Ground Zero in New York I had the same feeling.



P.S. It was nice to see some of B Town and some leaders remember that day after two years...
http://entertainment.oneindia.in/bollywood/news/2010/bollywood-26-11-mumbai-terror-attack-271110.html
http://www.dnaindia.com/mumbai/report_prithviraj-chavan-pays-tributes-to-26-11-martyrs_1471972
http://www.newkerala.com/news/world/fullnews-92522.html


Babetude requests all readers to please light a candle to recall 26/11 and show that you remember.The link is below-

http://www.indiajaiho.com/LightACandle.htm

Thursday, November 25, 2010

And History just repeats itself...

Lines Written In Early Spring
William Wordsworth

I heard a thousand blended notes,
While in a grove I sate reclined,
In that sweet mood when pleasant thoughts
Bring sad thoughts to the mind.
To her fair works did Nature link
The human soul that through me ran;
And much it grieved my heart to think
What man has made of man.


Through primrose tufts, in that green bower,
The periwinkle trailed its wreaths;
And ’tis my faith that every flower
Enjoys the air it breathes.

The birds around me hopped and played,
Their thoughts I cannot measure:—
But the least motion which they made
It seemed a thrill of pleasure.

The budding twigs spread out their fan,
To catch the breezy air;
And I must think, do all I can,
That there was pleasure there.

If this belief from heaven be sent,
If such be Nature’s holy plan,
Have I not reason to lament
What man has made of man?



The source of Wordsworth’s happiness is the harmony that he observes in Nature. He sees, hears, and smells the flowers, the birds, and the trees, and he is delighted because each part of the scene he observes is doing what it is designed to do, and finds satisfaction. Unfortunately, Wordsworth’s happiness is marred by other thoughts.

‘And much it grieved my heart to think

What man has made of man.’

The stark contrast between Nature’s harmony and man’s unhappiness is depressing to Wordsworth. He recognizes that people are unhappy because they do not act in the ways they were meant to act. He believes that society has corrupted individuals and caused them to forget the importance of Nature. In his mind, people have deviated from ‘Nature’s holy plan’ and have renounced a life of simplicity, spontaneity, and beauty for grief and strife. Because of these feelings Wordsworth ends his poem by proclaiming. ‘Have I not reason to lament/What man has made of man?’
It expounds that the reason for man's unhappiness amidst the delicate chain of being in nature, is his pride to think to be greater than what he is, and complain of God's sovereignty.






I still remember reading and later deciphering and answering questions about this famous William Wordsworth poem.


After remembering 26/11 on my last post and going through the news on Tv and web, it's been like an emotional upheaval of sorts for me. The heart feels heavy but one needs to move on like every other emotional and strong person.

Because life is about dealing with human nature…

And the best way to do it is looking at history…


And History repeats itself over and over and over again. Period.

It just that sometimes we don't have the knowledge to realize the same.

Now that I’m older and wiser and not a young teenager as I was when I made my notes at home( without any help from any college or university) to write the eight papers of my History major exams. So though I enjoyed reading the same, I never delved too deep. Or maybe I was just too immature for the same…

I scored good marks but that’s about it…

I coax myself for the same everyday. People like us who grow up on their own but have a humane side need to know all these things, have the knowledge to handle things better in life.


I’m speaking of it after pretty long. Working the frivolous word of Bollywood( even the name is a shameful copy), made my life quite unsubstantial as well.

Not that I wanted to be so. But there was no choice. That’s where my bread and butter was for a couple of years. So interviewing, editing stories of cheap star squabbles, what they do, speak, where they sleep, shop.

As if there was nothing better to do than following the lives of a few people with very little intellectualism.

Watching movies every day first for Sony TV shows and then for reviews every Friday at the theatre . Some of them were unbearable to sit through but I suffered them just because it was my work. Not out of love, mind u.

I’m not saying every movie was bad and there were substantial stuff said and done by the likes of Aamir Khan, and his movies were quite good. But other than that, it was total stagnation. Also the dumb outweigh the bright there.


But quitting that environment has come as a blessing.

I love film history too and like to keep in touch with world cinema. Never had a chance to do that a lot. But now it's nice to blog about it and yes, write a bit of all that in the book I write.

So talking of something substantial as History, one can see a lot and learn a lot…


tudors and human behavior, Russian Rev, French rev, american war of inde,wife of mR.


Or in Cambodia…


While watching the special features on the Judgment at Nuremberg DVD, I viewed the director Stanley Kramer wife’s interview. And she had something on the lines of how one needs to know one's past so that you can handle your present and future better…

This February I had the opportunity to visit the Tower of London. Well it's historical and looks quite nice, and we happily clicked away pics and showed them off later.

Quite later the reality hit me hard. Gosh, this tower had such a bloody history with blood bath being the favorite pass time inside there.



While visiting the London Dungeon, we got a glimpse of what was actually going on there. Delving into the history of London one gets a first hand experience of the gore, the inhuman tortures that were going on just 500- 600 years ago. Hanging people upside them, boiling them, butchering them alive and the perpetrators seem to enjoy it all…

Gosh, it’s pathetic. The cold behavior could beat the o degree Celsius hands down…

Dark history filled with horror stories of poverty, dirt, squalor, plague, fire and murder


I've been a fan of Tudor history. Well, in history everyone would enjoy reading about the Tudors as that’s the most colorful era. So much so that it gets depicted on screen over and over again.


The reigns of Henry V111, Bloody Mary Tudor and the golden age of Elizabeth.

The history books wouldn't delve on the gore as much as the TV shows or the stuff on the net do.



And though I never saw the Tudors on TV, the followed up much of it online and on you tube. It was nicely made but glamorized things quite a bit( that’s understandable) and yes, stayed true to the gore of executions and torture..

On another note, I like Natalie Portman's work but her Anne Boleyn act'The Other Boleyn Girl' has been blasted by most people who know the real history. It was full of made up things and accusations against Anne and George Boleyn which never happened.

Wonder why she decided to be a part of such a faulty film which makes a joke out of history.





People like me already know that you are a good actress Natalie...Leon, the bald act in V for Vendetta, and now Black Swan. Girl you needn't need to do more. Nats I imagine u as Mother Mary, not as a half baked character like that.


In history Queen Anne Boleyn who is the mother of one of the most successful and loved English queens Elizabeth is seen as a victim more than a schemer( though the argument is always on) and so are Mary, Queen of Scots, Marie Antoinette( during the French revolution) Queen Alexandra of Russia( in whose reign the Russian Revolution) happened. Queen Alexandra's daughters and sons for sure became victims of the communist regime.

Guess they were gray characters with their shares of issues, but not compeletely black.


Catherine Howard, another Tudor Queen was the guilty and considered the stupidest girl for playing with fire and having an extra martial affair and premarital fun,even while knowing how vicious the court politics was and how cruel her husband could be. One best example was the fall of her cousin Anne Boleyn. Queen Catherine Howard is portrayed as a complete moron with no self restraint in showtime's 'The Tudors'.

Jane Boleyn made it all possible. This despite both of them knowing that their relative( cousin of Howard and sister- in-law of Lady Rochford) had been falsely implicated and executed only six years before.

Their head rolled soon and guess there are many lessons to be learned from an event like that.

Lady Jane Grey from the Tudor period again was an innocent victim who became a pawn in her families' power games.


By the way,Anne Frank one of the young victims of the Nazi massacre by Hitler had said,
“ I still believe in spite of everything that people are really good at heart.”

But is it actually true. If you look at the majority population of the world, that’s not it… surely not.

Looking at the Killing fields in Cambodia, The Nazi massacre, China, Atom bombs in Hiroshima and Nagasaki.


Looks like it's going on for long- the domination of the weak by the strong. No wonder people have always run after power and riches.

But if you go to look at it, you see so much of it in real life, all around us. It;s just that it takes a while to fathom things and for some, they don't understand it at all.
When I was the gawky little girl and even as late as last year I wondered why people are needlessly mean to each other! Why do they like to pass comments knowingly to make the other person feel small, even when the person concerned is not doing/ saying anything offensive? Worse still, why do things to harm the harmless, who's doing things in his/her space

Then the great realization( it was always there, I just didn't get it) hit me one fine day. Well, it all stems out of envy, resentment, arrogance and the various other vices some people like to cultivate. And once they are nurtured well also thanks to an easy environment for them to grow, company of that sort, it takes over …

The person who attacks usually doesn't have something which the target has. So this mean words and deeds provide some kind of sadistic pleasure to him/ her.


And yes, domination of the weak is another natural human tendency. One someone is at a weak spot, just jump in to make the person even more miserable. It's only a few who sympathise with people who are down and out.

But all this has been going on for ages. If u look at .......u will know. Human behavior, that is is.



Some religious sects say 2012 or at least 2036/37 will change it all. And the new world order of peace and love and goodness will be established. There’ll be heavan on earth as the evil wanes away…

As of now, all that seems like a distant dream. We can only wait and watch.

Tuesday, November 16, 2010

From Asia, with love...

It was not until recently that I started talking so seriously about martial arts. Kung Fu, karate, judo, Thai kick boxing and so on…

I always knew about the super talented Bruce Lee and yes more so Jackie Chan, Jet Li and Chow Yun Fat who came later on. The east is fantastic as it gave the world martial arts, yoga, Ayurveda, acupressure, Tai Chi, spirituality( in a big way) etc. Yoga, I have done for many years now, but I’m learning about Tai Chi only now.It's really very, very interesting to know so much about the mind body connection, the importance of the spirituality factor in life. That's where the real power lies- in the mind.

This is a continent which gave the world quite a bit in terms of culture. You know why I get to talk about Asia so much now. The last was when I studied Geography is school and it’s been a while since then. I gathered my knowledge(and am thankful for the same) but it was not my favorite subject anyway. It's only after I started staying out of Asia and moved to the American continent, did have more chances to talk about it. That's the irony of it. But it's nice to talk so much about where you come from right now, outside of the country of your birth.

I love to talk about the positive aspects much more than the negative ones. People think I know so much about martial arts.Well I did contemplate taking up karate when I was very little(just wanted to be a tough little girl) but that never materialized.

It's actually mt very someone special who taught me a lot about martial arts and the talk started not very long ago. "You have the strong legs for it and the body too for kung fu", he would say! You know I now really regret not taking it up. I would really have been such a tough girl and it’s important for people to be a little scared and intimidated by you these days! Also it's a great way to stay fit without depending too much on weights etc!

I have become mentally strong and have also taught myself how to not be at a weak spot in life.

But physical strength is a must too! So yes, it would have been really nice to be a karate or kung fu chick.Martial arts experts can also fight injustice and evil not just with words but more literally too!

Now it seems a little late in life to do that...


Anyway most importantly being more Asian and not just conventionally Indian looking has worked to my advantage outside of India.

Well, in northern and western India, they would say I look more oriental, as if from Singapore or Bangkok. Well, not all of them were the same but with some I feel it was more a jibe and it’s nothing great to be like that (as if only the typical Indian looker with a sharp nose is only good enough)!

Many other oriental lookers(especially for whom it was more prominent) would feel it much more. Guess, it was a jibe from from the narrow minded with their limited knowledge of the world! Or maybe sometimes people are so envious and hold underlying resentment towards someone that they it kind of clouds their views and way of speaking!

Anyway, beauty lies in the eye of the beholder.What might be beautiful or even good for some mightn't be good for the other. Of course while making choices, one's class matters!

Okay, not everyone was narrow minded though. My ex roommate, a small time model, a wannabe celeb said I am and could be more international( here I'm happily representing my kind as well) than Indian.

Well, what she said a few years back, became a reality now.

Also some nicer folks in India and Mumbai appreciated my exotic look in the last few years and it's nice to know that at least some with a broadminded outlook. Maybe being from media and the constant education made them so.

But there were some guys who admitted they were attracted to me but I felt they couldn't figure out properly what the heck made them feel so! Guess that's because they weren't clearheaded and it isn't a good thing at all!

By the way, I'm saying all this for the sake of it. Thankfully I have been knowledgeable enough and by the grace of God continue to gather even more wisdom as the days go by. I want to be content in my own space and not get swayed by the opinions of others. So jibes/ criticism or compliments, I feel the same.

And as I said, I strongly believe in the saying, "Beauty lies in the eye of the beholder. It's just that some people have genuine reasons to find someone beautiful or ugly while others have none and are influenced by emotions- lust, fascination, envy et al.

Anyway, a few have often wondered( even when I was in Mumbai) how I managed to look so different in all my modelling pics. A little make up and hair change and I would change!

Even in normal pics my look changes, depending on the lighting and background etc. I was called the chameleon and I would graciously call myself the master of disguise. It's like literally following and living according to the very famous Shakespeare quote,"All the world's a stage and we're all actors and actresses" .

“I think you are either Mexican or Egyptian”, said a very pleasant bartender at a restaurant in New Jersey a year back.

Before that in this Caribbean island people often wondered and asked me as to what kind of an interesting mix I am! "You seem to be from the western world. Did you study in America? You dress up so well', they would ask. That I owe teachers in school as well the internet, international movies and of course my work in the media! By the way,I stayed in an Indian metro city called Mumbai as a media person for a while,so I know a bit of style. No big deal!

Once before even these real life experiences, a well wisher who’s quite the world traveler had said after looking at some pics of mine, “Oh, she looks more Brazilian than Bollywood which is so typical and boring.” And some more people had recently said,"She looks as if she's from Venezuela? She speaks Spanish, right?"

And I would like to just take a bow. Thank you everyone for your unbiased views. Maybe yours truly has a kind of physique, brown hair, exotic light brown eyes and a nice tan which makes them feel she's more Hispanic than Indian.

Ummm...I remember being the short haired, very skinny, gawky kid not too long ago.It's nice to have come a long way since then! I've been called the exotic looker many times and I thank God for that! From a little tart to an exotic damsel.Come a long way...

Plus that gives me inspiration to learn another language. Not bad at all! And I and a few other aware people from India too, find Latin hottie Jessica Alba absolutely stunning. And yes, Shakira and Salma Hayek too as well as supermodels Gisele Bundchen, Adriana Lima and Alessandra Ambrosio.

J lo, Eva Longoria, Eva Mendes etc have made some news too!

Check a picture of Jessica Alba and her gorgeous olive skin and unconventional good looks- it must have come as a whiff of fresh air when she and the likes of her got mainstream type of fame in Hollywood.




The fashionista can look effortlessly sexy even in casuals.

And even hotter when she plays Mommy to daughter Honor.

And in a personal way, I've liked Panama born(smaller star) Jordana Brewster's ('The Fast and the Furious' was one of her better known movies)features, pretty tanned skin and style, which has been a hit with me for years.


And a kind old lady said I look very Polynesian-Hawaiian to be precise. I love Hawaii and used to always dream of going there especially after loving the classic ‘From here to Eternity’ so much. I love the sea and it's my dream destination. That gives me more justification, right? Dress up in coconut leaves skirts, the pretty garlands and the floral head gear. It would be nice to take pictures like that with the beautiful beaches as the backdrop!

Dream, dream, dream...all I have to do is dream...( Courtesy- The Everly brothers)



After hearing so much of all this from non Indians over the last two years and so, I kind of felt I should have been like Lou Diamond Philips. Gosh, I could have been his sister or niece!

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Maybe I would have played various types of roles on celluloid just like him, inspired by him. That would have cut my struggle in life so much!! Man, I wish I was that lucky.

But one thing remains certain, I gel better and am more suited in the more cosmopolitan society here.I wanted to shift to California almost 7 years back( sadly it didn't pan out then but I'm glad I always knew myself and was aware of what was good for me) and am really thankful I could move to the western world if not exactly California.

Better late than never.I always prefer the broad minded outlook. But yes, I'm very much an individualitic person who developed a definite set of views over the years. So I love to preserve my Asian morality, ethics, and spirituality in the western world! That's like enjoying the best of both worlds.

But It's really nice to be more international than Indian, and not just belong to one country, but to the world. I'm proud to be an Indian, and I love to imbibe the good things from my culture and hold them close to my heart forever.

Now most people have the dream of travelling the world or being a called a global citizen. It doesn't always come true for all but many would appreciate it.

But jokes apart ,vanity isn’t my thing at all.I would like others to compliment me instead of doing it myself( it's so very silly to blow one's own trumpet!) Modesty and humility are signs of strength not weakness though many don't admit it.

But today’s discussion is important in more ways than one.

It’s meant to broaden one’s outlook. I for one never have or had anything against the sharp nosed, typical Indian beauty; I appreciate beauty as a whole. And as a good journo, I have always been unbiased and it shows here on my various posts as well. My mother though isn’t that kind. I picked up the finer things including values from the country of my birth.

She strongly thinks that 'the north east of India has been ignored big time by the centre Indian central government)'. Amongst other things, the not typical looking Indian girl( more oriental) is not treated well enough in the entertainment world.

As far as actresses and celebs are concerned, Freida Pinto who made splashes worldwide talked about how she didn’t get too many roles in India( she was apparently called flat chested, dark and all that) before ‘Slumdog Millionaire’ happened. Well she must have had Portuguese ancestors from Goa, India and hence she has the exotic look. That has stood her in good stead internationally and made her so very famous all over!

No wonder model/ actress Koena Mitra is getting much more adulation in LA and San Francisco than in Bollywood. The exotic look must have worked in her favor in the west!

And yes of course, big Indian star Aishwarya Rai Bachchan. She can morph into various characters regardless of its nationality and this can very well explain the international movies in her kitty- 'The Last Legion', 'Pink Panther 2' etc.It's another matter though that none of movies made her a big international star.

Some fools (ain't an understatement here) in my country of birth think that becoming fair is enough or maybe conventional sharp nosed Indian looking etc will make them good.Even though there were attractive dusky actresses there doing well too from a long time,more so since the 1990s.

A part of the elite have however asked the public not to have the obsession to be just fair. This came up last year when Aishwarya Rai Bachchan said she didn't want to advertise a fairness cream for L'Oreal. There was a story not too long ago when some people damaged their skin badly during treatments in their quest to become fair. Guess, the obsession is from the many years of living under British rule. The country became independent in 1947 but many things remain the same… Well, the genes remain the same, that's the reason why.

Being fit and exercising is so important, not only to look good but for overall health as well. Having a well proportioned body is so very important and thankfully after globalization the modeling world and B- town has changed the mindset a bit! But still there’s a long way to go. Toned legs, a slim waistline et al one needs to have and not just a big heaving bosom…


Remember the Shakira lyrics from almost 9 years back- "Lucky that my breasts are small and humble So you don't confuse them with mountains Lucky I have strong legs like my mother To run for cover when i need it ..."( Courtesy- Whenever Wherever) 'Next to her cheap silicon I look minimal That's why in front of your eyes I'm invisible But you gotta know small things also count You better put your feet on the ground And see what it's about' ...( Courtesy Objection tango)

Ignorance isn’t bliss in any way! No wonder the country still remains a third world country even after so much economic growth.

China might be rising as the east rises but not India at this rate, with just only a few elite ones, while the rest continue to happily live in the dark-in ignorance, illiteracy and so on. Not the high class and a few knowledgeable ones I am talking about here!

There are a few who are responsible for taking the country forward. But there are too many who love to live in the dark. The ratio must be 20:80 and that's not too good.

By the way, only a good education, class and increase of intellectualism, knowledge and wisdom can make people progressive in life. Knowing oneself is being enlightened while knowing others is being wise. But sadly many don’t have either. Well that’s being tried for but more needs to be done not just in India but everywhere as well.

Otherwise a kind of an ‘Avatar’ like world will become a reality where again a few intellectually and technically powerful people will dominate the majority!


On another note, they might be from a totally different field, but I always felt proud to see Assamese American engineer Renita Saikia Fincke keep her traditions alive. She's originally from the North East Indian state- Assam.

Well, that's my home state in India and some people there have some Mongoloid and Siamese roots.That explains my exotic look as well which has stood me in good stead. Of course Renita gets lots of help from her NASA astronaut husband Col. Edward Michael Fincke better known as Mike Fincke.

He did the the state's most famous Bihu dance in space and enjoyed his time in the north eastern state last year where he was felicitated. The spring festival dance has never featured in a mainstream Bollywood film, but reached space. That sure is incredible.


He loves the river Brahmaputra in Assam and filmed it from space.He also took many pics of the North east and it's scenic beauty from the space station.

Their children who speak various languages and have Assamese-American names, seem to have the best of both worlds- the advancement of the west and the mystique of the east! Kudos to you guys!



P.S.- You guys might be curious but Babetude's personal pics will be shared on the blog only when the time is right and the news is big enough:-) She ain't a celeb and vanity is not her thing.


Till then, ciao.