Sunday, January 30, 2011

Gandhi Rememberance Day

"When I despair, I remember that all through history the ways of truth and love have always won. There have been tyrants, and murderers, and for a time they can seem invincible, but in the end they always fall. Think of it--always."

Mahatma Gandhi


He left the world on Jan 30th, 1948 but his spirit lives on...
In school we used to show respect to the father of the Indian nation by observing two minutes silence.





His ideals seem too idealistic and inapplicable in today's world. The Hindu extremist who couldn't identify with his ideals gunned him down 63 years ago.

Even today, the problems with India arising out of the great religious divide haven't ended.

But it's good to see it's great influence on influence makers themselves- Rev. Martin Luther King, Nelson Mandela and more recently US president Barack Obama.


He will always be regarded as one of the greats to walk this world.

Wednesday, January 26, 2011

Saluting India's Real Heroes!

26th January,1950 was the day India became a republic.

Well, much like other Indian children, Republic Day for me was all about participating in flag hoisting, singing of patriotic songs, national anthem, cultural programs and yes, watching the parade from Rajpath and around the Red Fort in New Delhi and the president's address to the nation on national TV.Those are the memories.

It was a ritual of sorts. I agree that in the past few years, the ritual kind of died out, thanks to way I like many others got caught up with the various struggles of my life. Republic Day became more like a national holiday, a day to rest after hectic schedules and weeks of work. Well, nothing to be happy about. That shouldn't have been the case.

As an educated and wise adult it's so much important to get serious now. Yes, even more than before. Thankfully I understand all that better now. Though I'm miles away from the country of my birth, I'm doing the needful in my small way now. Better late then never.

I must have said in my earlier posts that for a couple years, I got so caught up with the entertainment journalism work that I could hardly write or talk about anything more substantial.My professional life centered around all that. And as I said, there was more frivolousness than the serious, substantial stuff to do in that world.

But I'm grateful I've more time and energy to concentrate on things that matter.

As children in India most of us were taught to idolize Gandhi, Bose, Bhagat Singh, Chandra Shekhar Azad and the patriots who formed the nation. And we read about them in text books and during my History major days quite a bit.It's because of their sacrifices that the country became independent, that the citizens could be part of an Indian nation.They deserve all the respect of the world.


Today the ones I'm remembering are the heroes of modern history, and are from my time-the 90s onwards who are not fighting foreign rulers but the enemy within and around the country. They are fighting insurgency and threats from enemy nations.

An old Indian saying was used to give utmost respect to soldiers and farmers(Jai Kissan, Jai Jawan) all the time. It was believed that they contribute a lot towards the development and safety of a country and there's so much truth in it.

And like many conscious citizens, I never had high hopes or much faith on the politicians of the country or the system( sounds cliche though) as a whole! A country where nepotism, corruption and groupism is so rampant, a country where only a few selected people,a lucky few seem to flourish.

My simple prayer today is that these heroes will not be unsung heroes.They were simple men who accomplished extra ordinary tasks.

War is something which causes unnecessary loss of life and is detested by all the peaceful people of the world. Wars should be avoided as much as possible. But sometimes war become necessary to maintain peace which is so very difficult to maintain, thanks to the fact that so many people believe in violence and injustice.That's why one needs to spare a thought for the young soldiers who work for national pride and honor(of any country, why only India!)as well as safeguarding civilians.


Martyrs will be part of modern history books but it shouldn't end there...

"It is the cause, not the death that makes the martyr."
-Napoleon Bonaparte, the Emperor of France ,

"When You Go Home, Tell Them Of Us And Say,
For Their Tomorrow, We Gave Our Today"
- Maxwell Edmond

To every man upon this earth Death cometh soon or late. And how can man die better Than facing fearful odds, For the ashes of his fathers, And the temples of his God...
-Lord Macaulay in his poem Horatius.

They were Indian heroes who went down fighting like lions- Captain Vikram Batra(Param Vir Chakra),Captain Anuj Nayyar(Mahavir Chakra),Lieutenant Manoj Kumar Pandey(Param Vir Chakra), Captain Haneef Uddin (Vir Chakra), Captain Vijayant Thapar,(Vir Chakra), the martyr from my North East Indian state Captain Jintu Gogoi(Vir Chakra) whose fiancee I still remember was inconsolable for a long, long time as well as other Kargil and all war heroes.

http://ikashmir.net/kargilheroes/index.html

Heroes are Major Sandeep Unnikrishnan(Ashok Chakra),Havaldar Gajendra Singh(Ashok Chakra),Shahid ASI Tukaram Ombale (Ashok Chakra) who like a lion caught the lone surviving terrorist of the Mumbai attack at the cost of his life, and all other Mumbai terror attack martyrs.

I am saluting them all on the occasion of Indian Republic day. They got their gallantry awards, many posthumously on a 26th January and on 15th August(Indian Independence day) but the memory should be there forever, and not only on one 26th January or 15th August of a certain year. It's sad to see how a few just like their families feel that these real heroes of the country are not given enough credit.

The majority of the Indian population is too caught up with their own lives. Some try to occupy themselves with the lives of the celebs from the fields of movies, sports business, glamor et al. Perhaps because getting caught up in a world of dreams is like opium, an intoxication for many, a way to escape the harsh realities of life. I see it so much around me.

Most of my simple little efforts to arouse a little consciousness about martyrs and issues of this sort in the educated class, even some from media have been ignored. Some don't wish to remember 26/11 properly even though it happened just some time ago, right there in the city they were living. They have no time for other social issues too. The uneducated ones don't pay attention either. They are too caught up with survival and yes, so maybe opt for the opium happily.

By the grace of God, I've met only a few, that too after a lot of search and research who involve themselves in noble efforts and try to better the same.

But so many people simply don't care that it looks like a case of a few against many.

I remember as a school girl back in 1999, I wanted to donate everything from my piggy bank kinda savings, little money I had made by writing articles in a local newspaper to one of the soldiers' funds.

Well, I always had a heart even as a very young girl,it was just that I couldn't do enough for a while being so much involved with the various issues in my life. I still feel a sense of guilt over the same.

I agree what a small entity does is nothing more than a drop in the vast ocean. But it's a start. And it's good even when one person stands for a cause.

India is a developing country and many have contributed towards its growth.We are all entitled and have the right to enjoy life, take care of ourselves and entertain ourselves.

But let not only a handful remember the real heroes and the ideals they stood for when many more should have done the same...

Let not only the families bear the brunt of the loss throughout their lives which is sadly usually the case.

The media is called the fourth estate because it has the power of influence. It's nice if some true journos can make at least a few of the citizens of the world conscious.It's not easy to do as the majority don't or can't care. But then, one can at least give it a shot.

The Indian movie industry has made a few movies on patriotism and one of them was 'Rang De Basanti'(Color it Saffron- the color that signifies sacrifice) based on the lives of patriots from the Indian independence struggle- Bhagat Singh, Sukhdev, Chandra Shekhar Azad, Ashfaqullah Khan, Ramprasad Bismil and the connection with the lives of modern youngsters living in a contemporary post independence India full of dirty politics and corruption.

It's another story that a majority of the audience like to see mindless song, dance and commercial masala in movies. Some make patriotic movies only to get good box office results.

Thankfully there are a few intelligent viewers and film makers who rise above all that.It's nice to see a few of the actors(like the ones in the song) display intelligence and compassion in reel and real life. This song's like a conversation between a martyr's mother and her lost son.





We get to know a lot about soldiers and patriots through international cinema as well. Movies such as 'All quiet on the western front', 'From Here to Eternity', 'Platoon', 'Born on the 4th of July', 'The Deer Hunter','Saving Private Ryan', The Thin Red Line' and many more celebrate the soldier's valor.
This song from LOC Kargil( the movie talked about a serious topic but couldn't do much justice though) is something dedicated to the lost/ other comrade.






Here's a video tribute to young Kargil Hero Vikram Batra. He was only 24 years old in 1999. Sometimes I wonder how these youngsters( from any country, not just India) gather the courage, the will to do what they do with so much happiness, how they put the country,the country men ahead of their precious lives and their families.They are beautiful souls indeed...



Let's salute the 26/11 heroes yet again.They are the ones who saved a city of 19-20 million people that fateful day. No amount of remembrance for them is enough.

Let's not forget them just because they are/were simple people, men next door, and don't have glamor to transport people to a world of dreams. Just because they don't thrive on publicity and are real people from the real world.


Here are some videos from a lovely TV show that the channel CNN IBN made a while back called 'Does India really remember its martyrs'? There are interviews of the parents of Anuj Nayyar(only 23 in 1999). His father is still grieving, appalled and disgruntled over the apathy, unkindness and lack of concern displayed by politicians and government officials.
Also the families of Vikram Batra,Captain Haneef Uddin, Captain Vijayant Thapar(22 only in 1999)have shared their memories. What better day to have a recap than on Indian Republic day?












The families of Mumbai heroes are still grieving. It was not just another day in their lives. Good and compassionate citizens need to take out a little time and hope that some more people will grieve with them...

That's the least we can do...





I quite agree with Major's father that "the world changed only for them, the family and India went back to normal in a few days." I so wish people of the country would value the sacrifice of the precious life of a young son much more and not make it look like a personal loss of a family which is unfortunately the case.

Apathy is rampant. Someone with a sarcastic sense of humor had quoted below a youtube video about how a video that has vulgar, improper or frivolous content gets much more views by people than the videos for patriots and martyrs!








Major Sandeep Unnikrishan, who I tend to remember most of the time would always be my Mumbai hero. He was a very humane person who donated much of his salary towards charity and various causes. When I look at his parents, I feel a lot of sadness. His father rightly said, "By being alive for some more years he could have done so much more for India and people." I was in Mumbai that terrible day as a silent, weak spectator and the pangs of guilt for not being able to anything substantial will be there for a long, long time.


Babetude would like to thank youtube and all the lovely people who contributed towards the making of these wonderful videos. It was a pleasure to put some together here. As an Indian,who stays away from her country but keep her values and traditions very much intact,it was an honor. Jai Hind.

As we sign off, here's a scene from the critically acclaimed 'Rang De Basanti'(it was released on 26th Jan, 5 years ago)which has an interesting debate and a message conveyed in a humorous and entertaining way to the youth of India...

Monday, January 10, 2011

The Unbeatable Trendsetters

The movies have always created front runners as far as fashion trends are concerned.

Yeah, some people have had their individual styles over the years and continue to do so.That's very, very nice. But Babetude like other media people has to keep reminding here(almost an apologetic tone for the ones who we don't know:) that we can only talk about the ones we know, the ones in the limelight.

Some movies and stars have always determined fashion trend. In fact more than the models themselves who become clotheshorses for various designers, it's the actors/ singers who end up setting trends. Not all, but there have been quite a few.

The interesting part is that some are still popular after so many years.

James Dean had slicked-back hair, well worn jeans and a tight white T-shirt that was capped off with a red windbreaker, and of course, a cigarette dangling from his mouth.In fact it's been said that he gave vests a popularity of its own with 'Giant'. It was called the classic greaser look, the cool look.


All youngsters who like to be rebels still adore him.

Well, only the cigarette part needs to be cut out from the look. The stars during that time had the best intentions in mind, but had no idea of the hazards caused by smoking and used it as style statement.It showed attitude but that's about it.




But Jimmy is said to have been quite influenced by Marlon Brando more so his famous pose with the leather jacket on the bike.




Elvis impersonators are still around. It was more hip than classy but those side burns and all that are imprinted in memory. It's likely to be so for a while.




For women the styling part has far more choices.

Well, dressing up is an art and some mastered the art very well indeed!

The classic style of Audrey Hepburn will never grow old. Her fringe and lovely gowns, dresses and gloves have been recreated by Jennifer Love Hewitt, Paris Hilton, Natalie Portman and even outside of USA, Europe and Hollywood.

Her style sense was very evident in movies such as Sabrina and Breakfast at Tiffany's.

I've seen people trying to recreate it in the Bombay film industry too.

She had collaborated fruitfully with the wonderful designer Givenchy and they created magic together. It's an art to recreate magic of that kind.







Grace Kelly's serene look and her bridal gown when she became Princess Grace hasn't gone out of style.People try hard to recreate it and even her very beautiful bouquet.









From outside of the cinema world, Princess Diana was the one who epitomized class, panache and sophistication. Her style grew over the years and became one of the best in the world.Kate Middleton has shown her stylish side a lot and is likely to be compared quite a bit with her late mother-in-law.



Then there was Jacqueline Kennedy and her style was inspired by the best in Europe and America. Millions of women followed her.

Watch her in the classic shift dress...

Katie Holmes is very stylish and well dressed herself. Guess she'll play Jackie on screen quite well! For what I've seen, she looks the part.


These women knew how to carry themselves with class and that's an important aspect of exhibiting classy style.

Now let's talk about some wild style queens...


Veronica Lake did quite a few noir films is known more for her waves and the famous peek-a- boo bangs than her acting. This was a lady who couldn't handle her life well but her style lives on.


She continues to inspire the likes of Jessica Alba, Megan Fox and many more.






Andy Warhol's muse Edie Sedgewick had a sense of style which was totally unlike anyone else in the 60s and she left behind a legacy for youngsters. Shoulder sweeping chandelier earrings, kohl lined eyes, fluttering fake eyelashes, black opaque tights, leotards, fur coats, leopard stripes, and short bleached/silver streaked blond hair made up that unique look.

We still most of it around and she has a strong fan base upto today.






British fashion model Twiggy was too thin but there was something about her that fascinated.Quite an icon, this one was...




Madonna never hid the fact that Marilyn Monroe influenced her widely.
So when Maddona is copied by people over the years, Marilyn is copied as well.






All style gurus unanimously agree that 'Sex and the city' will stay alive for it's chic style and will continue to inspire for a while.








The movie 'Clueless' was a happy teen comedy/romance loosely based on Jane Austen's 'Emma'. It entertained and it's been unanimously agreed that the styling influenced many youngsters of the 90s.The chic styling in the movie is still remembered fondly.








The 'devil wears Prada' is recent movie which showcased the chic style of New York apart from delving deep into some aspects and issues of fashion.



27 Dresses had some funny and outrageous bridesmaid costumes but they still can be liked by anyone with a sense of humor.




The readers are welcome to make additions and talk about other trendsetters.

Friday, December 31, 2010

Babetude's sweet musings...

The year gone by taught me a lot. Each day does so and as I grow older I feel it even more...Learning and getting wiser sure can make life so much better.

It was the first year, the most part of which I spent out of the country of my birth-India. Something new for me but the best part was learning more, from new people of the world and broadening my horizons.That's why traveling is considered a great education,an eye opener by many.

It's nice to increase knowledge, become a more substantial person, not someone who gets carried away by frivolous stuff. Learning is a never ending process indeed!

Someone was right when she reminded her online friends on a networking site to be careful of the company we keep as it ultimately has an effect on what we become."When a dove starts associating with crows his feathers may stay white but his heart will darken. Watch who you work or keep company with..."

I'm glad at last after quite a few years of wait, I finally got the company of a few wise and spiritual beings.

Apart from all that, I enjoyed some good stage acting which is the real deal in the world of acting.My all time favorite classic actor Monty Clift was a dedicated and natural Broadway actor. So were many other greats.

I never had any great feeling about stars. Even after working in the Indian entertainment industry for a while, I never fell for the charms of any star.Sadly most of them are non actors. Except for the likes of the very talented and intelligent Aamir Khan.

I want good acting, good performances and that's it. From the time I grew aware, I never was a big fan of commercial movies. I like to treat cinema as an art.

Why should one flow with the tide and like what the majority like? It's always better to create your own space and choices but then they should be wise and good to.Definitely it's not advisable to live in a fool's paradise...

I have appreciated theater quite a bit. But then due to the busy schedule I never got to check out Prithvi theater much in Mumbai. I plan to do it properly in my visit to Mumbai in the new year. Checking out a play here in Trinidad & Tobago was a special experience too.

Some of these actors really do treat acting as an art.It's not about earning money for them.They have zero stage fright and they are really natural. Kudos to them, since unlike film and TV actors they don't have the privilege of retakes.

In life too, one can call oneself actors like how the famous quote says- "All the world's a stage and we are all actors and actresses."

We are all here to play a part so it's better we play it damn well. Of course it's better we play the parts genuinely and be ourselves. Hypocrisy sucks.So it's not about taking the 'acting' word too literally!

On a similar note, I really love ballet(in fact good dance forms as a whole) too and Natalie Portman. She's not just a star but a great actress as well.

This one ain't no ordinary star. She's someone who has balance in her life- a good career since childhood, attractiveness,class, poise and she's also someone who cares about family.And balance in life is very, very important. I shall keep this opinion about her intact always.

Hence 'Black Swan' is the movie for me. I follow her on twitter and got many details when it released in December. The reactions have been very positive.

But it hasn't released as yet where I stay.

Waiting for the same with great anticipation. The reviews have been good too.But I guess it's a more like a movie for the intelligent viewer or the ones who take acting, story and direction seriously.


Stage acting is the real deal.

And as felt by me too along with the critics, cinema lovers,film makers, she's been nominated for the Golden Globe for the movie and is likely to get an Oscar nomination.

Just as I felt and also expressed on my blog once in June that she'll become a mom soon( almost predicted:-), Nat is pregnant.That's another big blessing in the season of joy apart from making the career shine so bright.


And it seems she finally found her right man-Benjamin Millepied.He's a principal ballet dancer and a ballet choreographer of international reputation. And they got close during the making of the movie.

She has got engaged. I'm so happy for her.

Someone knowledgeable with a sense of humor thinks he has a name which is good for children story books. Well, if all goes well, this could end up as being a lovely fairy tale with a beautiful story of it's own!

I saw Nat grow up on screen from 'Leon' when I was a little girl myself to now 'Black Swan'.

But this happy reality also makes us realize something else very important. Time flies very fast indeed. So one needs to make the best of what one has in life.

Take care of health, career, life as a whole and be positive, progressive, constructive and also harmless. I like what a few wise folks say: Do as you like as long as it harms none.

And yes, everything has a time.It's always good to do things in life with the time factor in mind.

2011 should be another phase in my life as well. Motherhood is a must for any woman to feel complete.Okay, more so for the ones who are my type.

And I have always loved little girls and wish to mentor a beautiful little one and make her into a good citizen of the world, something which I didn't get so much in life. I kind of grew up on my own. If I have a son(God's will is going to decide that)I would happily say like how a historical figure once did: "You are not what you were supposed to be, but that doesn't mean I'll love you any less."

Seriously in the not very kind of world, and even more competitive world of today it's a big blessing to have great citizens and role models such as Natalie Portman,Dakota Fanning, Mark Zuckerberg and Google founder Sergey Mikhaylovich Brin at home. Blessed are their parents!

Here again we have to pick up names from the celeb list because the commoner is hardly known by the majority but yes, thankfully there are a few good people who make the world a better place.


Happy New Year everyone.A New day will dawn and a New Year is here. May peace, love, justice reign supreme...

And definitely learn from the lessons of the past and try be better for days of 'Auld Lang Syne'(an evergreen lovely song)...

See you all in 2011 soon with some more wise and entertaining talk.





Thursday, December 23, 2010

Happy Christmas time...

It's a time to spread good cheer. A time of love, peace and joy...

I have always been attracted a lot to Christmas.Maybe because of my childhood and schooling background when our sisters(nuns) got us ready for the holidays with cultural programs, plays, song and dance. And yes, a few gifts with someone playing Santa and food.

And yes,learning some teachings of Christ would stand some of us in good stead though we were not born Christians.He's someone who many people regardless of their religion love to love and follow.

In fact it's more like a festival which anyone regardless of religion can celebrate. After all it's about celebrating the best things about humanity.


It's the spirit of Christmas that is always so very special.

It's also about giving, yeah, giving to the ones who don't have and really appreciate, doing good deeds. Spreading peace, love and joy...

I have always loved the Santa legend. Saint Nicholas aka Santa Claus, appeared/ appeared so lovable, amiable and is said to be taking special care of all those who do the needful. I have always had the habit of writing my wishes to Santa on Christmas Eve, I was so loved the story about kids putting their wishes for Santa in a stocking and later collecting the gifts. Well, in recent years they haven't been material things,more things and wishes to make my life better.

Material things give joy but spiritual growth and the sense of achieving more than just material gifts and things makes one feel complete.

The decorations, the pastries, the chocolates and the spirit of the season as a whole has been very, very appealing. And I'm sure I'm not alone as there are many non Christians who love the aura of the season.

I have always liked to dress in red and white(Santa's colors) with the Santa cap,and play a few popular carols I knew since childhood.

But this will be first official Christmas celebration at home. Before it was kind of low key.

This is one of the best things about moving to the western world.

Not that northeast India where I come from or Mumbai never had a Christmas. They had but this is something different and seems more authentic as the celebration is at home.

So this year, it is special, thanks to that special someone.

It's good to decorate the tree, pack gifts and cook and bake.



And as a tradition I look forward to unpacking my gift from under the tree.





The Almighty has been really kind.


The enjoyment is there, but the most important part of Christmas is remembering Christ and the spirit of spreading good will, doing some charity and helping the weak and the harmless.

I tried and more so this year to do my bit of charity though I still feel it's very, very little. Just two years back when that someone really special bought a special gift( my first huge Christmas present) and in the process involuntarily donated to the Audrey Hepburn Children Fund, I felt so good...

Later the realization felt even more good as the importance of these little deeds sunk in. I knew about them from childhood but couldn't as much as I would have liked to.

Three years ago we did make a donation to a leper's colony in Mumbai around and few little things here and there for floods victims in India. In my childhood through our school we used to try to help flood victims and the poor with books, clothes and food. Thankfully our teachers and sisters(nuns) taught us some philanthropy. But the world is huge and there's much misery and hence it can never seem enough.

I just wish I had done a bit more.It gives a sense of satisfaction, more than anything material and as good as achieving and realizing dreams in life.

Charles Dicken's 'Christmas Carol' preached the same spirit. And my favorite Christmas movie 'Miracle on 31st street' has ideal messages too. It's an amiable film with a very cute actor playing Santa.

This year, apart from trying to make a few people who are good and close to me happy, I feel a sense of joy to send a few e cards from care2causes from which charities such as animal welfare, human rights,environment, wildlife et al benefit. I like to sign petitions which they reportedly deliver to various authorities/ leaders around the globe and also promote the same through social media. And yes, do some writing and spreading messages for the families of Indian martyrs & patriots which I have been doing since November 26th this year, more vigorously and am likely to continue with full force.

It's always nice to make especially a little child smile even with a simple little gift- a toy or a jar of cookies. Kids really are virtuous, they show appreciation for even the smallest of things.

These little things make so much of a difference to the mind,give such a heartwarming feeling and it's kind of joy which superficial things like partying etc can never bring.

It's not much, but the spirit is on and hope to do much better in the days to come...

Maybe some time in the future I shall be able to enjoy a White Christmas, with snowman, wine, cakes etc- the more authentic way. The Almighty is kind.

Merry Christmas to all. May the season bring the best and do what it is supposed to do- spread peace, love and joy...

Friday, December 10, 2010

The Lonely Hearts




Good bye Norma Jeane
Though I never knew you at all
You had the grace to hold yourself
While those around you crawled
They crawled out of the woodwork
And they whispered into your brain
They set you on the treadmill
And they made you change your name

And it seems to me you lived your life
Like a candle in the wind
Never knowing who to cling to
When the rain set in
And I would have liked to have known you
But I was just a kid
Your candle burned out long before
Your legend ever did

Loneliness was tough
The toughest role you ever played
Hollywood created a superstar
And pain was the price you paid
Even when you died
Oh the press still hounded you
All the papers had to say
Was that Marilyn was found in the nude

Goodbye Norma Jeane
From the young man in the 22nd row
Who sees you as something as more than sexual
More than just our Marilyn Monroe




This was Elton John's song dedicated to Norma Jeane better known as Marilyn Monroe. And it very well describes the reality of her life.

Always admired in a crowd and yet so very lonely!

She was the quintessential star who was made to pout & preen for and romance the camera. And she had a lovable childlike quality, she could look sexy but sweet and innocent at the same time. And she didn't need to try hard to look hot, it was a natural quality she had.

That’s something which many blondes( more so Playboy blondes) after her had tried to copy unsuccessfully.

Marilyn had men drooling over and even today she's considered the ultimate sex symbol by many. But this voluptuous blonde was a truly lonely soul who sadly lacked the ability to handle life.

Her circumstances were bad and the world of showbiz even then was tough.

She had a troubled childhood with her father abandoning her mother and her, the mother ending up in a mad house and her relatives with whom she spent her childhood not being kind enough to her.

But she was thoroughly ambitious, someone who would do anything for fame. First, she played the right cards for her modelling career and then for the stardom that the movies brought her.

The movie Marilyn and Norma Jeane has chronicled the various issues in her life quite well.

She had money, she had fame and adulation but it was not enough to save her relationships with her three husbands.

The first one was just James Dougherty was an arranged match and more like a marriage of convenience while she was still a teenager and she left him to pursue her modelling as Norma Jeane anyway.





To become Marilyn, the ambitious Norma Jeane had reportedly undergone plastic surgery to correct her nose and dyed her hair blonde. Well, those promoting her career demanded that.


In her more serious marriages with Joe Di Maggio and playwright Arthur Miller she had severe discord too.


The problems were deep rooted. She was reportedly schizophrenic and a drug abuser. She was aware of the same and she sought psychiatric help and psychoanalysis for most of her life.

She had some medical issues which caused miscarriage and inability to have a child.

She was scared of getting old as it meant stardom waning away (that’s a problem which would probably forever plague most in the entertainment industry).

It’s said during the time she sang “Happy Birthday Mr. President”, she dreamed of marrying President Kennedy


Her lonely end in the August of 1962 as a 36 year old is still a mystery and there are many conspiracy theories associated to it.

So here was this lady who seemed to have it all, yet was sad and lonely.

And he wasn’t really a dumb blonde. In fact some of her quotes such as these, show that she knew herself, and her intelligent side-

I am selfish, impatient, and a little insecure. I make mistakes, I am out of control and at times hard to handle. But if you can't handle me at my worst, then you sure as hell don't deserve me at my best.”

“I believe that everything happens for a reason. People change so that you can learn to let go, things go wrong so that you appreciate them when they're right, you believe lies so you eventually learn to trust no one but yourself, and sometimes good things fall apart so better things can fall together."

“I've never fooled anyone. I've let people fool themselves. They didn't bother to find out who and what I was. Instead they would invent a character for me. I wouldn't argue with them. They were obviously loving somebody I wasn't.”

‘Dogs don’t bite me, only humans do”

“A sex symbol becomes a thing, and I can't stand to be a thing.”



In fact, she had sought the friendship of the favorite classic actor of many, Montgomery Clift more so during the making of her last movie ‘The Misfits’.

She famously described Clift as, "The only person I know who is in worse shape than I am."

Clift had a few chronic health problems, and was bisexual and later in his life probably exclusively homosexual. That was something which was looked down upon in Hollywood during those days.

After a life altering accident in 1956, he resorted to constant drug use to ease pains.

His destructive lifestyle affected his health and his end ten years later was lonely and sad too. In fact the last ten years have been famously called, ‘the longest suicide in Hollywood.” Sad, it pains me greatly since I can easily say- he's an all time favorite actor of mine and many others...

It doesn’t take a rocket scientist to figure out that living a life of glitz and glamor of the showbiz world has many pitfalls.

Over the years there have been many examples.


Young and promising actor James Dean fatally crashed his car when he was only 24. Almost 16 years later the girl he wanted to marry and couldn't- the pretty Italian actress Piere Angeli too decided to put an untimely end to her life, owing to financial and personal issues.It's said she could never forget Dean and her note said that he was the only person in the world she ever truly loved in her life.

Before that Judy Garland, whose still immortal as Dorothy of ' The Wizard of Oz' went through severe personal crisis and many of her problems were connected to her weight.

The lives of celebs such as Andy Warhol’s muse Edie Sedgwick, musicians Jim Morrison, Janis Joplin, Jimi Hendrix and more recently Heath Ledger and Brittany Murphy have exhibited the pitfalls of life in the public eye.


So the song “Good bye Norma Jeane” as stated by Bernie Taupin, can be about any public figure that is tormented by the pressures and the standards that the press and fans make him or her live up to.

Elton John sang the same song with a few alterations for Princess Diana.

The truth it’s not just a thing for celebs.

There are several lonely hearts in many a big bad city.

We get to hear more about the known people simply because they live their lives in the public eye.


Struggling alone day in and day out in a lonely city with very few true friends for anyone is difficult. Especially so if the person is young and building a career. One reaches a big city to fulfill dreams but the road ahead isn’t easy at all.

It’s like being lonely in a big crowd and seeking a place far away from the “bustle and the bright city lights.”

Especially so if there is not much family support and a parent or guardian is not physically living with the person. One needs to be lucky to get a true friend or a true lover.


In the Indian entertainment industry, the ethereally beautiful Madhu Bala who's been often revered as an icon in the east like Marilyn Mornroe in the west and the talented Meena Kumari have been seen as tragic lonely figures.Parveen Babi was another one who had a horrendous time dealing with the mayhem in her personal life stemming out of her various psychological problems.



The media and some others have sympathized with actress Divya Bharati's mysterious end and models Rakhi, Miss India 1997 Nafisa, her friend and co-star Kuljeet, Viveka and the like's self destruction in recent years. The same goes for some South Indian actresses who have been seen as victims as well.

It's said they simply couldn’t take the pressures of life in the shallow entertainment world.

Some mean ones criticized them for going out the cowardly way.
But loneliness is a hell of a thing to handle. Feeling lonely in a crowd and not knowing the difference between friends and foe can be a common situation in a cold city. At most times there's no family or true emotional support to lean on.

Only the one who was facing it and maybe their respective family would know what was actually going on.So it's better not to comment on sensitive situations of that sort.

Self preservation is something one should ideally seek(of course without harming none) and not self destruction.

It's difficult but one needs to keep one's cool amidst any kind of crisis. It’s easier said than done though.

Right psychological and true spiritual guidance at the right time and being lucky enough to get the same can transform many equations and change life for the better.

Some people can be really so very strong. Maybe they get divine guidance when unthinkable crisis hits them.

Here’s one recent example from the very few I have seen around lately and that has touched me immensely. And actually it's about normal people, not any celeb. And yes, it's something about the Mumbai Terror attacks of 2008, which not anyone conscious who has lived in Mumbai(even though I did so in the past) can forget or afford to ignore. It could have been a huge crisis in any normal person's home...

Their only son Major Sandeep Unnikrishnan (who can very well be considered an Indian youth icon) became a martyr in the Mumbai terror attacks of 2008 and when he was brought home, his parents K Unnkrishnan and Dhanlaxmi Unnkirishnan said they were so traumatized by the event( understandably so distraught) and later the unneeded political hoopla that they felt like ending their lives themselves there and then. But they logically figured it out and said, “people would say that their son was so brave (who has been equated with the likes of patriots Bhagat Sigh, Sukhdev, Rajguru and Chandrashekhar Azad) while they are such cowards”. So they got the courage to live and have been supporting each other since. They have been doing everything from attending functions, to giving interviews, to meeting other martyrs’ families, and everything else that preserves the memories of their son and others like him.

Many an emotional human would be touched by their courage and tears would well up in their eyes but the brave parents keep maintaining their calm.

Kudos to that kind of spirit. No words are enough.Maybe that very spirit will help them to get real justice one fine day...

Wednesday, December 8, 2010

And History repeats itself...

Lines Written In Early Spring
William Wordsworth


I heard a thousand blended notes,
While in a grove I sate reclined,
In that sweet mood when pleasant thoughts
Bring sad thoughts to the mind.
To her fair works did Nature link
The human soul that through me ran;
And much it grieved my heart to think
What man has made of man.


Through primrose tufts, in that green bower,
The periwinkle trailed its wreaths;
And ’tis my faith that every flower
Enjoys the air it breathes.

The birds around me hopped and played,
Their thoughts I cannot measure:—
But the least motion which they made
It seemed a thrill of pleasure.

The budding twigs spread out their fan,
To catch the breezy air;
And I must think, do all I can,
That there was pleasure there.

If this belief from heaven be sent,
If such be Nature’s holy plan,
Have I not reason to lament
What man has made of man?



I remember reading this poem in school as an adolescent in the mid -late nineties.It's been since then but I still recall it so very well. So that simply means it did touch me quite a bit.

Later we had sat down to decipher it and then answering questions about this famous Wordsworth masterpiece.


It holds a lot of meaning indeed. A noteworthy English Romantic poet like Wordsworth who was considered the nature poet or nature writer has put in a lot of thought into this particular work of his.

Without getting into too many details, here's a little summary for you guys...

Wordsworth is happy to observe the harmony in Nature. He sees, hears, and smells the flowers, the birds, and the trees, and it all delights him because each part of the scene he looks at is doing what it is designed to do. Unfortunately, Wordsworth’s happiness is marred by his own kind.

The stark contrast between Nature’s harmony and man’s world depresses him. He thinks people are unhappy because they do not act in the ways they were meant to act. In his mind, people have deviated from ‘Nature’s holy plan’ and have renounced a life of simplicity, spontaneity, and beauty for grief and strife. He has a feeling that society corrupts humans and causes them to forget the importance of Nature in life.

Wordsworth ends his poem by proclaiming- ‘Have I not reason to lament/What man has made of man?’

It makes clear the fact that man's unhappiness amidst the delicate chain of being in nature is caused by his pride which makes him think he's greater than what he is, and also his habit of complaining about God's sovereignty.

The few wise men of the world agreed and would agree with this kind of a feeling.


After remembering 26/11 in my last post and going through the memorial day on TV and web, it's been like an emotional upheaval of sorts for me. The heart for sure feels heavy.

But life is all about dealing with human nature and the harsh realities of the world, right?

And the best way to do it is looking at History…


And History repeats itself over and over and over again. Period.

It just that sometimes we don't have the knowledge to realize the same.

History was my major subject during my graduation. And I had taken it up because of my love for it, more than anything else. No matter what others said including those who felt it would never help any career, I really loved the subject.

Now that I’m older and wiser and not a young teenager as I was when I made my notes at home(without much help from the college or university which the college was affiliated to) to write the eight papers of my History major exams. So though I enjoyed reading the same, I never delved too deep. Or maybe I was just too immature for the same…

I scored good marks in all the papers but that’s about it.

I coax myself for the same everyday. People like us who grow up on their own but have a humane side need to know all these things, have the knowledge to handle things better in life.

In fact I've started talking about History after pretty long. Working in the frivolous word of Bollywood(even the name is a shameless copy),made my life quite unsubstantial as well.

Not that I wanted to be so. But there was no choice. That’s where my bread and butter was for a couple of years. So interviewing, editing stories of cheap star squabbles, what they do, speak, where they sleep, shop and so on, became my work.

As if there was nothing better to do in life, other than following the lives of a few people with not much wisdom or intellect.

Watching movies every day, first for Sony TV shows and then for reviews every Friday at the theater was a duty too. Some of them were unbearable to sit through but I suffered them just because it was my work. It was never out of love, mind you though!

I’m not saying every movie was bad. I have some good memories. There were substantial stuff said and done by the likes of Aamir Khan,A.R Rahman, Prasoon Joshi etc. Aamir's movies were quite good and there were some other substantial personalities in the industry.

So apart from Aamir Khan's patriotic 'Rang De Basanti', children centric 'Taare Zameen Par, I liked 'Gandhi, my father' and the not too old 'Jodhaa Akbar', a historical as well and a few other new age type of movies made in recent years. And of course I'm a classic movie fan.

But other than that, it was total stagnation. Also sadly the dumb outweigh the bright in that world.


But quitting that environment has come as a blessing.

I've always loved film history a lot too and like to keep in touch with world cinema. Never had a chance to do much of that. But now it's nice to blog about it and yes, I would love to add a bit of all that I perceived from various things in the book I write.

So talking of something substantial as History, one can see a lot and learn a lot…


While watching the special features on the 'Judgment at Nuremberg'(which dealt with the trials of the Nazi war criminals, how they were tried for crimes against humanity and so on) DVD, I viewed the interview of director Stanley Kramer's wife. And she had said something on the lines of how one needs to know one's past so that you can handle your present and future better.

There's indeed a lot to learn from many events. I won't be able to say much about how people behaved in the ancient world as there are not too many recordings in history about the cave man, how people actually were before they got civilized.

Yes, we do know about Alexander, Julius Caesar, many personalities from Indian history like Ashoka and so on,before the birth of Christ and a lot of corruption, politics, intrigue, conspiracies were recorded from these eras as well. Shakespeare later used some examples in his plays, especially his tragedies. Guess the genius always had some messages for the readers and viewers.

People are more comfortable with medieval and modern history as they are closer to our times.

The Tudor era(Shakespeare belonged to that era too),the French revolution, The American war of Independence, The Russian Revolution, World war I and II, the Vietnam war, the killing fields of Cambodia, the days of slavery, the Indian independence struggle and many interesting eras of Indian history- the list can go on. There won't be space for everything out here but these examples would kind of help us know even better that strife in human life is nothing new.

Luckily very recently I was introduced to the work of Robert Greene and he tells the same with great conviction and style through his books.His writing and research are remarkable.

This February I had the opportunity to visit the Tower of London. Well, it's historical and looks quite nice, and we happily clicked away pics and showed them off later.

Quite later the reality hit me hard. Gosh, this tower had such a bloody history with blood bath being the favorite hobby inside there.




While visiting the London Dungeon, we got a glimpse of what was actually going on there. Delving into the history of London one gets a first hand experience of the gore, the inhuman tortures that were taking place just 500- 600 years ago. Hanging people upside them, boiling them, butchering them alive and most importantly the perpetrators had seemed to enjoy it all…

I couldn't bring myself to play the executioner and pretend to chop heads with an axe even though it was just for a picture. It's just too sadistic a pic to keep...

Gosh, it’s pathetic. The cold behavior could beat the extremely cold London winter hands down.

There were horror stories told of poverty, dirt, squalor, plague, fire and murder et al.


I've been a fan of the Tudor period in English history(1485 and 1603).

Well,in history everyone would enjoy reading about the Tudors as that’s considered the most colorful era in English and even Europe History. So much so that it gets depicted on screen over and over again-the reigns of Henry V111 and his six queens, "Bloody Mary" Tudor(during whose reign thousands were burnt at the stake) and the golden age of Elizabeth.




The history books wouldn't delve on the gore as much as the TV shows or the stuff on the net do.

When I was a student myself,'Elizabeth' directed by Indian filmmaker Shekhar Kapoor would show on TV most of the time and it really made things interesting for me. Definitely more interesting than the text books.

Though I never saw the show 'The Tudors' on TV, I followed up much of it online and on youtube. It was nicely made but glamorized things quite a bit( that’s understandable since it's meant to attract viewers) and yes, stayed true to the gore of executions and torture..



On another note, I am a fan of the wonderful Natalie Portman's work but her Anne Boleyn act in 'The Other Boleyn Girl' has been blasted by most people who know the real history. It was full of made up things and was filled with accusations against Anne and George Boleyn which never really happened.In fact majority said that the siblings were just framed.

Wonder why she decided to be a part of such a faulty film which makes a joke out of history. There are other examples of faulty films but this will always be counted as a noteworthy name in the black list.





People like me already know that you are a good actress Natalie(pictured on top as Anne Boleyn with Jim Sturgess as her brother George Boleyn)...

The little live wire in 'Leon', the bald act in 'V for Vendetta', and now the acclaimed 'Black Swan'. Girl you needn't need to do more!

I imagine this girl playing Mother Mary with her serene face and cool temperament, not a half baked character like that.


In history Queen Anne Boleyn who is the mother of one of the most successful and loved English queens Elizabeth, is seen as a victim more than a schemer( though the argument is always on) and so are Mary, Queen of Scots, Marie Antoinette( during the French revolution) Queen Alexandra of Russia( in whose reign the Russian Revolution) happened). Queen Alexandra's daughters and young son for sure look like young victims of the communist regime.

Some one had said: "History is one of those things that we can argue about and have opinions about, but most of the time we don’t actually know the real answer, what REALLY happened."

But at least there's enough material out there to read, find out and discuss.

Guess they were gray characters with their shares of issues, but not completely black.

Catherine Howard, another Tudor Queen was the guilty one and has been called 'the stupidest girl in the world' for playing with fire and having an extra martial affair right under the nose of her very power crazed and ruthless older husband Henry VIII.

Jane Boleyn nee Parker made it all possible for the young, silly and immature queen who wanted to have the best of both worlds- be a powerful queen but also enjoy a colorful life as well where her needs are taken care of by young men something which her old husband couldn't do. This despite both of them knowing that their relative Anne Boleyn(cousin of Howard and sister- in-law of Lady Rochford) had been falsely implicated and executed for adultery and incest only six years before.

Their own heads rolled soon. Nobody considered the fact that Catherine was actually younger than her husband's eldest daughter Mary Tudor as well as his bastard son.She was reportedly only around 21/22 at that time and that very fact could have granted her forgiveness. But she had hurt the king's huge ego and she, her extra marital lover Thomas Culpepper as well as one of her lovers before marriage Francis Dereham met with gory ends. Another one, her music teacher Henry Mannox had testified against her and hence he was spared.

The politics in the English court during that time was ruthless indeed!

Jane Boleyn, the Lady Rochford who was much older than the immature queen paid her price within just six years. In 1536 she had falsely accused and set up her husband George Boleyn and sister -in-law Anne Boleyn.In February 1542, she herself lost her head and she was childless at that time as well, unlike Anne who had little Elizabeth. She would later became one of the greatest English monarchs.

Thomas Cromwell who had plotted to end Anne Boleyn's power in 1536 too met his end in a similar fashion in the Tower of London in 1540. In fact he had also reportedly framed four innocent men making them look like Queen Anne's lovers and brought about their end.

Poetic justice indeed! "What goes around comes around", "As you sow, so shall you reap"- the sayings do hold some truth at times.

By the way, it's been argued and said that it was actually the patriarch of the family, Thomas Boleyn who put his children Anne and George in great danger by placing them(Anne, George as well as the eldest daughter Mary Boleyn) in court because of his love for power and later not doing enough to save them when the conspiracy was hatched to bring them down.

Ghost stories say that his spirit would be hounded for 1000 years for abandoning his family in the cowardly and dastardly manner!!!

Well, considering so many unjustified killings during those times,there are probably ghost stories that haunt every castle and palace of England.Spooky tours are quite famous out there indeed!


Lady Jane Grey from the Tudor period again was an innocent victim who became a pawn in her families' power games.

Love for power has indeed been a great pastime for years.And power and riches for some have always come before family.


For those who like history, the following link is recommended for more...

http://garethrussellcidevant.blogspot.com/

For more on the colorful Tudors, the following sites can be checked...

http://www.theanneboleynfiles.com/
http://www.elizabethfiles.com/

Anne Frank was one of the young victims of the extremely cruel Jewish massacre by Hitler and the Nazis comes from a famous, much talked about era too- World war II (1939 to 1945).

My favorite classic actress Audrey Hepburn had widely talked about the sufferings of that period during her childhood and how it made her feel one with Frank who was almost the same age as her.


The Oscar winning 'Schindler's List' had depicted the pathetic state of the Jews quite well.

The girl who lost her life before the age of 16 had written in her famous diary,“I still believe in spite of everything that people are really good at heart.”

But is it actually true? If you look at the majority population of the world, that’s not it. Doesn't seem so at all.

Hitler killed himself and The Nazis and the Fascists were tried and punished for crimes against humanity. Quite justified indeed!

Forgiveness is divine but only applies to a select few. Some things are unforgivable. Humanity and sympathy are for humans, not for monsters.Period.

Looking at the Killing Fields in Cambodia, The Nazi era, massacres in China, Atom bombs in Hiroshima and Nagasaki and so on, it doesn't seem that all people are really 'good at heart'. It can just be called a perception of a poor little girl, an innocent victim.


It's all about domination of the weak by the strong. No wonder people have always run after power and riches.


Closer to my country of birth, India, it's known how ruthlessly Aurangzeb had removed his brothers and imprisoned his father Shah Jahan( who built the monument of love, The Taj Mahal for his wife and Aurangzeb's mother Mumtaz Mahal).Then he persecuted all non Muslims under his rule. Soon after his demise, the Mughal empire faded away.

His great grandfather Akbar was the complete opposite. He had a Hindu wife and several ministers and advisers from other religions and sects. And the Mughal empire was flourishing under his rule. Liberalism helped him to usher the golden age in Mughal history.

So a few people who propagate humanity, tolerance and love can positively change the world for themselves and others.Even though there are a handful like that, but they are easily outnumbered.

If you go to look at it, you see so much of the negativity in real life, all around us. It's just that it takes a while to fathom things and for some, they don't understand it at all.

A child is pure and innocent. The corruption sets in as the person gets older as some of them let the vices take over.

When I was the gawky little girl and even as late as last year I wondered why people are needlessly mean to each other! Why do they like to pass comments knowingly to make the other person feel small, even when the person concerned is not doing/ saying anything offensive? Worse still, why do things to harm the harmless, someone who's engaged in his/her space?

So silly of me to take so long to realize something so simple.

Then when the great realization( it was always there, I just didn't get it) hit me one fine day, i felt sad but grateful too.

Well, it all stems out of envy, resentment, arrogance and the various other vices most people like to cultivate. And once they are nurtured well thanks to an easy environment for them to grow, with company, circumstances et al, they just takes over the person's personality.

The person who attacks usually lacks or thinks he/she lacks in something which the target has. So the mean words and deeds provide some kind of sadistic pleasure to him/her.

Just like Wordsworth, some other wise people have also expressed discontent about the balance in nature and the animal kingdom and the lack of the same among human beings.

I must mention here again that domination of the weak is another natural human tendency. Once someone is at a weak spot, some just jump in to make the person even more miserable. It's only a few really kind ones who sympathize with people who are down and out.
It has all gone on for ages...

Now strong animals can dominate and kill weaker ones.But then animals never kill for pleasure, only for food.


People can achieve a lot by being positive, progressive and constructive,and do that without harming anyone. But still most choose negativity, regression and destruction. Maybe it's just inherent in their personalities.

Except for the truly spiritually aware few who preach positivity, no one can change the base tendencies.

Guess the ones that exude positivity and love are the people who make the world livable and a better place. I so wish their number would increase though.

Some religious sects say 2012 or at least 2036/37 will change it all. And the new world order of peace and love and goodness will be established. There will be heaven on earth as the evil wanes away…

They believe the pure children of the one true God who propagate goodness will survive.

I recently also heard an argument how the pure, the honest,the harmless ones and the protectors have been waiting for the same for ages ...

As of now, all that seems like a distant dream. We can only wait and watch.

Till then, here's a link to an article that deals with a similar topic-

http://www.care2.com/greenliving/why-do-we-treat-each-other-with-such-disrespect.html